To My Friend

By PeggySue Wells

I want to say to my friend:

When I’m feeling despondent, it can be difficult for those around me to know what to say. Or what to do. Family members and friends wonder how they can lift my spirit. And even though I have journeyed to the pit of depression and made my way back to better emotional ground, my encouragement is not always adequate to uplift my friend who is having thoughts of suicide.

But I want to say to my friend, I understand.
The situation is akin to being tucked tight inside an oyster shell. Depression and thoughts of suicide insulate and isolate me from the world. I yearn for connection with others to satisfy my loneliness but can’t seem to escape the confines of this melancholy. Nor can those caring people around me penetrate the despair that encapsulates my heart. Closed up inside this formidable oyster shell like a crustacean, I keep my pearls hidden. That inner part that is the unique me designed and created by God for fellowship and interaction, lies still and hidden from the world. Locked away from the community I need and that needs me.

Pearls photo by Maggie Smith

Pearls by Maggie Smith via

Singer/songwriter Colton Dixon had the same experience. His friend was feeling suicidal and Colton longed to help. How could he communicate hope through the hard shell of despair that encompassed the heart of his friend? His gentle song, You Are is his message to his friend.

And I want to say to my friend, it’s hope for you.

Listen and watch here.


Tell your friend: Live, love, and hope. I want you to live. You matter to me. Then offer some resources so the burden isn’t all on you.
The National Suicide Hotline is available 24/7 1-800-273-8255 and so are encouraging articles from this website and Finding God Daily.
Let others come along side and help you to help your friend. None of us should walk this path alone. God loves you and your friend.
PeggySue Wells is the author of more than a dozen titles including Rediscovering Your Happily Ever After.

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  1. Thank you for your articles.
    Wished people in my life could show this much concern, show the strength just to be present for a fellow child of God, facing more obstacles (and grieving) than they are aware. Wished those who are Christian would go back and read John 11:35 “Jesus wept.”. Even knowing He would raise Lazarus, He shared in the mourners sorrow and grief. This has long been my reference of how to be with someone in emotional pain. Many seem to uncomfortable when someone they know faces real difficulties.
    If only they could express what you have in your writing, that they actually care, and can “accept”.
    Thank you for caring enough to write this.

    • One Who Cares says:

      You’re so right. People are uncomfortable when others face difficulty. It’s so easy to be afraid of doing the wrong thing and causing more problems. Most people honestly don’t know what to say. They feel under qualified. One of the important parts of this website is to help people learn from the articles. We hope they’ll minister to people hurting and considering irreversible choices, but we also hope to minister to the family and friends around hurting people to help them learn how to support their friend or family member.
      We’re blessed you stopped by. Please feel free to share this article with your friends and family. It’ll help others learn in case they’re put into a situation like this someday. And sometimes the simplest answer is the best answer. “I love you and want you to live.”

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