The Robin Williams Question

463px-Robin_Williams_2011aLinda Evans Shepherd

I want to answer the Robin Williams Question that so many are struggling with;

If Robin William’s died, why shouldn’t I?

Here’s my answer, an answer I would have loved to have shared with Robin…

Depression is like a living monster which is built on lies that parade through your mind; lies built for one purpose, to steal, kill and destroy the wonderful person you are.  Dr. Keith Abow, a psychiatrist who has dealt with many who entertained this monster said in a recent article which addressed Robin, “I would have told you to fight against the invader with everything and every resource, without pride.  Deploy every weapon. And because the truth is the mortal enemy of every lie, I would have told you to get to an emergency room or call a suicide hotline or 911 and tell someone the absolute truth about all the dark thoughts you were having—yes, even the one about leaving the planet. Especially that one. Because that one is the big lie implanted in your mind by the Godforsaken charlatan, scum, named major depression. Your enemy. And mine.”

I applaud Dr. Abow’s wise words, but I’d like to further shine the truth on the lies that come with depression.  They are from the pit of hell.  We know Satan (who is real) has come to steal, kill, and destroy the ones that God has gifted with the most purpose and potential.  First he blinds them to their future and hope, then he whispers lies into their hearts.

Do not believe those lies.

If I could have said one thing to Robin prior to his death, I would have told him, “You are loved and have brought joy to so many and if you choose to live, you will continue to bring joy to others and even find happier moments yourself.  Plus, if you live, you will not inspire others to give up on life. Your death will become a tragedy for many families.”

The sad truth is that others have been influenced by Robin’s death and chosen death as well.  Robin could have chosen life and walked out of his deep depression to experience more of his God given purpose as well as love, joy and even peace.  Sure, he may have had to struggle from time to time, but he could have worked to manage his depression and continued to live.  The problems he may have struggled with such as self-loathing, financial woes, fear of the future, or even mental illness, could have been lived-through.  These struggles could have been met through the strength of the very God Robin believed in.

If Robin had only trusted in the God who loved him, if he had pushed back against his depression and called 911 or gone to the emergency room, he would have lived through the darkness to find life once again.

Robin is gone but you are here, and I’d like to say that if you are depressed, you can fight back. You can recognize the lies of depression which may be trying to coax you into a tragic decision that will not only hurt you but those who love you. Don’t do anything rash while you are in the depth of your hurt or despair. Live, so you can have a hope and a future.

As the word says in Jeremiah 29:11New Living Translation,

 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (NLT)

Like Robin, you do not have to give into the temptation of death.  You can choose to live.  Just as the Lord told his people,

“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.” Deut. 30:19 (NIV)

Live!  God loves you and will get you through the darkness.

If you would like to know more about God’s love for you, go to:  GodTest.com

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Comments

  1. Thank you so much! It is always worth fighting, because there are many small good things worth living in every life.

  2. I’ve been on the brink of commiting suicide before and I called an ambulance. Subsequently, I spent six weeks in a psychiatric hospital where they tried to push me into a one-size-fits-all therapy that just made matters worse and worse. I even became anorectic. I only managed to get out of there by lying to the doctors, telling them I was feeling great. One of the very few things preventing me from trying to kill myself again at the moment is the very real possibility of going through this hell on earth once again. I can fully understand anyone who refuses to go there.

    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Dear Astray,
      I am so sorry that you have been through so much.
      When all else fails, try turning to God with prayers that have a history of breaking people free from this kind of torment.

      Try praying this:
      Dear Lord,
      I am reaching out to you. Please give me life. I choose life.
      Spirit of suicide, I tell you to leave me in the power and authority of the name and the blood of Jesus.
      You are not welcome here.
      Any evil words you speak to my inner ear must be silent. I command that you be quiet, in the name and power of the blood of Jesus.
      Lord please heal the trauma and the pain in my heart caused by this evil spirit, who is not in me, but who has been tormenting me.
      Lord, I give you all my suicidal thoughts, my bitterness at myself or others, and even you. I lay all that at the foot of the cross of Jesus.
      I choose your healing, your power, your strength. I choose life.
      In Jesus name,
      Amen

      Astray

      Pray this every day for 40 days, then let us know how you are doing.’
      To find out more about this God who loves you, go to: http://www.GodTest.com
      Blessings,
      Linda

  3. I was institutionalized for being suicidal….thanks to a life-long battle with alcoholism. I know how it feels to be in so much pain and despair that death seemed like the only alternative. In fact, when the intake psychiatrist asked me why I wanted to die, I told him, “I’m already dead inside, I just want to finish the job.” God did an intervention and guided me to reach out and call someone. I thank Him every day for my life and thanks to Him and AA, I’ve been sober for 17 years. I suffer from depression but follow a regimin of medication, meditation and prayer (as well as therapy). God didn’t give us the gift of life for us to turn around and throw it away. There is hope and healing if we reach out and ask for help. God is always with us!

    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Patti, thank you for sharing your story! You are an example that there is a way out of your pain that INCLUDES life, especially when you reach for God!
      For those who want to get started in a relationship with God, please see: http://www.GodTest.com

  4. unless you’ve personally been under the cloud of depression you have no idea how depleating it is to your spirit. Sometimes it is a labor to breathe. For anyone who blithely says, “hang on” you just don’t get it. Tell someone painfully gripping a slippery cliff to “hand on.” They’re just words.

    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Yes, I hear you and I know what you are saying. I’ve been in this very place and what I found out is that things got better. I got better. My situation got better. My depression leveled off and I found joy again.
      When we talk about these things on this site, we are trying to say there is hope. There really is. You may have to walk through a painful time, but you can get to the other side of the pain and find joy again. Press on. I believe and I pray that things will get better for you.
      Love,
      Linda

  5. Unfortunately, based on the media reports, Robin had been depressed much of his life. He’d battled his demons and believed in God. I watched a video where he talked about the grace and love of God. The thing with chronic depression is it wears you down over time. You might understand that God loves you, your family loves you, your fans love you, yet the pit is so deep, none of this matters when you reach the suicidal stage. Some people reach out for help. Some have to do so over and over because they have an underlying biological problem contributing to their depression. It’s like diabetes or autism or Alzheimer’s or any other illness that stays with you but you manage it. Some folks can overcome depression with treatment and spiritual wholeness. My mom did years ago after a severe nervous breakdown. My sister, however, much like Robin Williams, battled severe depression and schizophrenia for 20 years. She had good times intermixed, which I suspect Robin did, also. But after two decades, she attempted suicide for the last time and succeeded. Your advice for seeking God is spot on, but it’s also not as easy as just not giving into suicide. People who are chronically mentally ill wake up every day and battle the “temptation” much like an alcoholic does. We have no idea how many times Robin Williams (or anyone who commits suicide) resisted the temptation, got help, and started over. After his death, I hosted two guest bloggers who wrote about their personal experiences with depression in the following posts: “Depression Doesn’t Care” http://laurahodgespoole.blogspot.com/2014/08/depression-doesnt-care.html and “In the Hard Days There is Hope” http://laurahodgespoole.blogspot.com/2014/08/in-hard-daysthere-is-hope.html.

    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Hi Laura,
      I am very sorry to hear about your dear sister, and yes, you are right that Robin fought his battle for a long time.
      It breaks my heart that Robin wasn’t able to try one more time. If he had, he might be doing better by now.
      But what happened to Robin is the very reason why we exist here. To encourage readers to try one more time. To push back into the light and into hope.
      My prayer is that people will resist that urge and wait out the pain. I am glad that I was able to push through the fight one more time when I was so desperate. That was 25 years ago and that’s why I am shining a light of hope here.
      My prayers are with all our dear readers as well as with those who have lost precious family members. We love you all and know God can help, God can heal.
      Love,
      Linda

  6. I can understand why Robin Williams wanted to die. You can have everything, and depression is like an evil shadow that is always there and the voices are always telling you that you are not worth it and you deserve to die. No matter how good things are they tell you that it is always bad.

    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Yes, there are evil voices in the world that tell wonderful people they are worthless. But those voices belong to the enemy of our souls and they are lying. If you are a victim of this kind of bullying, tell the voices to be quite in the name of Jesus. The take a look at what Jesus says about you. You are loved, you are precious, you have hope, promise and a future. If you don’t know Jesus, learn how to start a relationship with him at: http://www.GodTest.com

      • Have you heard of mental illness … a real medical disease.

        • Thinking About Suicide says:

          Hi Joan,
          Yes, mental illness is real. We are not saying that Robin did not have a mental illness, nor or we accusing him of sin. We are saying that he would be alive today, and perhaps getting the help he needed, if, he hadn’t taken his life. We are not condemning Robin or using Scripture to condemn him. We are sadden by his loss. AND we are sadden that his death influenced so many others to take their lives. We are hoping that our loving words will be a reminder to those who are hurting that there is hope, even in the dark times. Im my past, I myself had pushed through many dark times and walked back into the light, not only to survive, but to live into joy again. That is our hope and prayer for all of our readers.
          God bless!!

  7. so much for me remain anom, I wasn’t going to say any thing but, something just kept nagging at me , perhaps the holy sprit., maybe any ways laua hodg poole , I didn’t know if this was a real site or just fake to gather info , for studies on people , anyway I cant agree with u more , sorry not spelling well tonight to the point, I lost a friend in tarpon sps. fl., yes he knew the lord and just bought a brand new house car, beautiful fiancé , why on gods green earth did he end his life , sadly pain, and depression go hand in hand luarA POOLE SHE WAS 8 MOTHS PREG .??? I KNOW , WHY YOU HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD , AND AS FAR AS THEASE PREACHES WATCH OUT THEY HAVE DESTOYED EVEN MORE PEOPLE FAMLIYS COVINCING PEOPLE ARE SOME HOHOW IN HELL, WELL , GOD ISNT CALLED ALL MIGHTY FOR NOTHER A CATHOLIC PRIEST TOLD ME HE CAN EVEN PARDON SUISIDE , ANYTHING , I SAID BUT, BUT NOTHING SON HES GOD IKNOW WHAT YOU HAVE BEEN TAUGHT AND IM TELLING YOU , JUDGE NOT LEST YE BE JUDGED, HOWS THAT FOR BIBLED THUMPING HE EXCLAIMED , HE NOT THE ONLY ONE TO SAY EITHER I HAD LIVED AND MET MANY PEOPLE , MANY CONCUR , A LITTLE ABOUT MYSELF , TELL I GOT REALLY SICK , SONGWRITER,MUSICIAN., AGAIN I REALLY PREFER AMMONITY., HOWEVER, I WANT TO SAY MORE BUT, PAINFUL TO EVEN SPEAK ABOUT , MY FATHER RETIERD SKOIKIE FIREFIGHTER, I USE TO BE MARRIED AND DATED SEVERAL NURSES, SO I KNOW WHAT GOES ON , EVEN HALF MY FAM , ON FATHERS SIDE POLICE OFFICERS YEP., FROM A YOUNG AGE I , HEARD EVEN SEEN SOME THINGS , NO CHILD SHOULD , MY MOTHER PUT A STOP TO THAT., I USE TO RIDE WITH THEM , IN THE SQUAD EVEN TO SOME FIRES , I KNOW WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY, HOWEVER TIMES WERE DIFFERNT THEN , YOU KEPT YOUR MOUTH SHUT., WELL U STILL DO , ANYWAYS FORGET ABOUT THAT , SOME ABOUT TEN YEARS AGO GOD NOT ME SAVED THEM YES I BELIEVE I HAULED THIS PERSON OUT OF A GARAGE WITH THE CAR RUNNING , MY FATHER TAUGHT ME WELL., NO HEART BEAT A TECHNIGH I USED CALLED THE PARCARDIEL THUMP, ASK A OLD DOC HE /SHE NO WHAT I MEAN NO LONGER IN PRACTICE FOR SEVERAL REASON , ANYWAYS HE MADE IT, HES GETTIING REMARRIED THIS , SUMMMER I WAS THE ENTERAINMENT FOR HIS LAST WEDDING , I ALWAYS WODERED DID I DO THE RIGHT THING OR SHOULD I HAVE LET HIM PASS IN THIS CASE I GUESS I DID THE RIGHT THING , HOWEVER `AS ONE OF YOUR OTHER GUESTS SAID THIS IS NOT ALWAYS THE CASE, YOU CANT MEASURE SOMEONES ELSES MISERY, OR JUDGE , , WHY IS MY OTHER FRIEND IN TARPON SPS. FL. DEAD , WWHY MANY MAY RUSH TO JUDGMENT, HOW COULD HE DO SUCH A THING AND TO TOP IT OFF LEAVE A GAL , TO RAISE ACHILD BY HERSEF, SHOULD WE SEND HIM TO , I SAY HELL NO , ALTHOUGH I DONT WANT TO ADMIT IT BECAUSE OF HIS MOM, HE WAS VEAY SICK FOR SOME TIME , I COULD TELL TO MY SHAME AND EMBARISMENT , I HAVE TRIED TWICE . YES I CANT SPEAK FOR RYAN , IM JUST SO SORRY I DIDNT HAVE A CHANCE TO SAY GOOD BY, I SEEN THE SIGNS YEARS BEFORE ., SUFFERING , IS UNIVERSAL, WE ARE ONE WORLD , I THINK WE NEED TO HAVE MORE MERCY., UNTIL U HAVE WALKED A MILE IN MY SHOES, . DONT U THINK. I BELIEVE YOUR DAUGHTER AND MY OLD PAL RYAN ARE AT PEACE KNOW. THATS WHAT I THINK AND FELL LAURA , TRY TO SMILE , AT NIGHT LOOK AT THE SKY ONE OF THOSE STARS IS SMILING BACK AT U AND ITS YOUR DAUGHTER , ITS MY FRIED, ITS MY NEGHGHBOR, ITS AL FELLOW HUMAN BEINGS ,, IF GOD DIDNT CREATE JUNK , AND HAS SUCH A DEEP LOVE FOR US NO MATTER WHAT WE HAVE DONE WHY WOULD HE CAST A WORK OF HIS INTO A FIRE , HE WOULDNT I LOVE GOD, YOU KNOW IM RIGHT ANY DOUBT , SPELENDED JUST FELL THE HOLY SPRIT FOR A SECOND SEE , FEEL , YOU DONT HAVE TO SUFFER OVER YOUR DAUGHTER., YOU MAY STILL FEEL SAD BUT IN TIME U WILL JOIN HER., I COULD GO ON WITH MORE , MANY DIVES I USE TO SING AT , MET ALOT OF DIFFERNT PEOPLE , VIETNAM VETS , YOU NAME I COULD TELL U THINGS , BAD NEWS , REAL HEARBREAKING BAD NEWS., SO I WONT , SOME TO GRAPHIC TO EVEN POST. SORRY FOR THE LONG MEMO HOWEVER MY MAIN POINT I THINK AND PRAY U HAVE IT, ALONG WITH OTHERS WHO SEE THIS., AND FOR ALL THOSE BIBLE THUMPERS , YA I WILL PRAY FOR U TOO., BEFORE U CAST JUDGMENT ON OTHERS , OR BREAK OUT INTO A BIBLE INDUSED RANT ,,,,, JUDGE NOT LEST YE BE JUDGED TO ANYONE OUT THER SUFFERING KNOW I AM PRAYING WITH U., LOVE , JOY AND PEACE . AMEN

    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Hi Prefer Anom,
      This is a real site, and no we do not gather info nor do we sell anything. We are here because we really care about the brokenhearted and hope we can give them encouragement and even hope. And we know that for many we have made a difference. Thank God for that!!

      And we are in agreement; a person’s destiny is something we cannot judge. Only God can judge that. But we do advise those coming to this site looking for permission to kill themselves; why take the chance???
      This is especially true considering that we hear from many who survived their dark night of the soul and go on to live a life of hope and promise.
      Choose life! Tell God, “I will live just to see what you can make out of my mess!”
      At least, that’s what I prayed 25 years ago and God heard and answered. : )
      That said, know that I am so glad that God was looking out for you in your brushes with death.
      God has a purpose for your life. So sing your song and fill it with hope so all may hear!

      And you’re right about — this world will be sweeter when we love instead of judge. That’s God’s job. He is our hope and our salvation. In him we can have peace, love and even joy.
      I know because I survived my dark night of the soul as well and found that peace, love and even joy.
      God bless you and thanks for praying with us.
      Blessings,
      Linda
      http://www.GodTest.com

  8. I just want to say that it was not about Robin’s faith or not … it is about an illness that can get so severe that a person loses all hope and just wants to end the pain. It is not abut being evil, or about demons possessing you or not loving God enough. For some, very few, there truly is nothing Medicine can do. It is like being in the throes of a terminal illness, in severe pain, and wanting it to end. Society has not caught up with the idea that Depression is a Medical Illness of the Brain. And the thinking is so impaired that one who does this is not thinking straight. The Church has finally come to understand these facts and no longer condemns people who do this to Hell.
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    • Thinking About Suicide says:

      Hey Jackie,
      Destination heaven really has much do with trusting God through Christ.
      And yes, mental illness is real. Demons are also real. In fact, they are BOTH real. I believe this because I’ve seen cases for both.
      However, trusting in Jesus is also real.
      With Jesus there can be hope.
      If anyone is not sure that they are trusting in Jesus, please take out quiz at: http://www.GodTest.com.

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