The Effect Suicide Has On Loved Ones

By Susan Titus Osborn:

Rosen Georgiev / FreeDigitalPhotos.netIf you are depressed and considering taking your own life, please stop for a moment and think of the effect suicide has on loved ones, your loved ones, who are left behind.

The following poem, To Our Sister by Gary Sumner, sums up the feelings of a brother and the effect his sister’s suicide had on him.

We hate that thing you did.

It did not solve one thing.

We doubt you thought it through.

How could you plan such pain?


Your life was not just yours—

A part of it was ours.

The ones you left behind

Cruel emptiness now know.


We’d plans and hopes and dreams

Of times with you, dear one.

Events need not be grand—

Your presence was enough.


A future filled with joy

And days of happiness,

With loved ones all around

Were always wished for you.


Now do you hear the tears,

That come to us unbidden?

We ache to think of such

A future swept away.


This poem was taken from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors and used with permission by New Hope Publishers.

If you are depressed and contemplating suicide, there aren’t number of resources available as near as your telephone. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.

You can also dial the following National Suicide Prevention Hotline numbers operated by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration of the Department of Health and Human Services:

1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)

1-888-SUICIDE (1-888-784-2433)

1-877-SUICIDA (1-877-784-2432) (Spanish).

Here’s a video that takes a look at the heartbreaking effect suicide has on loved ones.


Susan Titus Osborn is the director of the Christian Communicator Manuscript Critique Service. She has authored 30 books, her latest being Wounded by Words and Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors, co-authored by Jeenie Gordon and Karen Kosman. Books may be ordered from New Hope Publishers.



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  1. Georgene says:

    I have also found that writing and expressing myself through poetry has helped process the pain. This is a poem I wrote after my son took his life in January of this year.
    O Lord, the deep, deep pain I grieve
    the loss of hope .. he chose to leave.
    Could I have loved him more, not less
    Could I have saved him from distress?
    Was there nothing I could do
    to stop him.. nor would you?

    But didn’t Judas once the same..
    from grief of knowing he was to blame,
    Took upon himself the right to die
    And not trust in Him who would be crucified.
    Yet, Jesus knew and loved him still…
    Yet did not stop him.. that would kill.

    His Master was holy in every way,
    the disciple could find no blame
    Jesus loved him perfectly, not like me
    He taught him everything he would need
    Yet this soul still overcome with pain
    chose to leave.. Jesus was not to blame.

    So why do I in sadness still
    Believe the fault to take at will
    For choices I did not alone make
    For a life I alone did not choose to take
    Oh God help me.. these thoughts to cease
    In acceptance lieth peace

    Here I must commit my thoughts
    and not focus daily on my loss.
    But turn now to those who are left
    and support and love them with Your best.

    Let those of us who are left behind
    Not let the torment in our mind
    Steal from us the days left
    Instead to hide within the cleft
    of your love and grace remain
    knowing it will heal our pain.

    Mrs. G 2012

      • Thinking About Suicide says:

        Hi Joanne, I’m so sorry that you lost your son, and the point in your video that part of you died when your son took his life is so poignant.

        For those who are hurting and thinking about suicide, I know it’s tempting to believe that no one cares, but even if it seems that way, it’s just not true. The loss of YOU will create a VOID that nothing else will EVERY be able to replace in the lives of your loved ones. Hold on. Things will get better. Believe it or not, you are loved and needed.

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