Why Live If Everyone is Out To Get Me?

By Lisa Copen


If you are having thoughts about suicide it can feel like everyone is out to make your life harder, more of a challenge. Sometimes it even seems like people want you to fail! Does it ever feel like people are just pushing you around (emotionally perhaps?) and you are sick of it?  Making you think “Everyone is out to get me?”

I saw this video on two penguins–one who is minding his business and just going for a little walk– and BAM! Take a few seconds to watch and see what you think.


Ever have one of those days? Though this video is meant to make us laugh, too often we can relate to it all too well. When we start having suicidal thoughts, it sure doesn’t help to have someone like this in our life who just reaches out and–whack! It is easy to start to wonder, “Why live if everyone is just out to get me anyway?”

What can you do to feel as though you can gain some control when you begin to think, “Everyone is just out to get me”?

  • Talk to a physician or psychiatrist to see if what you are feeling is normal for your circumstances or above average paranoid-type thoughts. if they are severe, they may recommend medication.
  • Remember, it is not all about you. Most people are concerned about their own challenges in life and you may be misinterpreting their actions or words.
  • Life is difficult and sometimes it seems as though the bad stuff just keeps happening. Consider keeping a journal and rather than focusing on the challenges, write about what you are learning through the process. I know. . . it’s cliche. But it also works.
  • See a good counselor. Suicidal thoughts because you feel targeted need to be addressed. Get a recommendation of a counselor who can walk you through the feelings of wondering if the world is out to make you miserable and where these emotions came from. We all have days when we feel this way, but if it is impacting your life, find some help.

When you are going through those dark moments, a simple “slap into the mud”–like this penguin received, can feel as though life is never going to improve. But it will. And while the slaps keep coming, learn to laugh at them. Search for the humor in the chaos. When you do, you will find people who laugh alongside you who want the very best for you.

Lisa Copen has lived with rheumatoid arthritis for nineteen years, and has found purpose in her pain by reaching out to others with chronic illness. Her organization, Rest Ministries, serves those with chronic illness or pain through daily devotionals and other programs.