Good Medicine for Thoughts of Suicide

By PeggySue Wells:

When thoughts of suicide overshadow our days, professionals frequently recommend we do something for someone else.

Is there anything to this? What is the rationale?

How often has another heard of my struggles, only to respond, “I didn’t know.”

My friend just posted that her young son died. I didn’t know he was ill. I was unaware of her sorrow. Hearing her sad news brought me out of myself as I was filled with compassion for her family.

I am not the only one struggling. As much as I long for someone to share my journey so it is not so lonely, to help me shoulder my cares so they are not so heavy, others may be silently having the same experience. In the dark pit of depression where thoughts of suicide dominate, it is not easy to reach out. But it is good medicine. For both of us.

 

Chances to be Angels

  By Adelaide Proctor

It isn’t the thing you do, dear,

It’s the thing you leave undone,

That gives you the bitter heartache

At the setting of the sun;

The tender word unspoken,

The letter you did not write,

The flower you might have sent, dear,

Are your haunting ghosts at night.

 

The stone you might have lifted

Out of your brother’s way,

The bit of heartfelt counsel

You were hurried too much to say;

The loving touch of the hand, dear,

The gentle and winsome tone,

That you had no time or thought for,

With troubles enough of your own.

 

These little acts of kindness

So easily out of mind,

These chances to be angels,

Which even mortals find—

They come in nights of silence,

To take away the grief,

When hope is faint and feeble,

And a drought has stopped belief.

 

For life is all too short, dear.

And sorrow is all too great,

To allow our slow compassion

That tarries until too late.

And it’s not the thing you do, dear,

It’s the thing you leave undone,

That gives you the bitter heartache

At the setting of the sun.

 

See  another article on our site, on this topic: Fight Thoughts Of Suicide With One Random Act of Kindness

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Release from Shame and Thoughts of Suicide

By Karen Kosman:

 

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Shame can be all-consuming, destroy confidence and self-worth, and may even drive a person to thoughts of suicide. It also makes it difficult for that person to make decisions, and fear of rejection often leads to isolation and increases the potential for suicide.

Feelings of shame may have developed in early childhood and followed a person into adulthood, or it may have been enforced on an individual by someone else.

My friend, Jeanne, can relate to the overwhelming power of despair and shame. Jeanne struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts. She reached out to trusted spiritual leaders and friends about her struggle. One friend stated, “Just get your eyes off yourself.” Another friend said, “You need to praise more,” and handed her a book on Christian praising.

Jeanne states, “These comments caused me to force a smile and push my feelings of despair deeper into my heart. I longed to be free from my emotional pain, but felt ashamed that as a Christian I struggled with suicidal thoughts. Shame kept me imprisoned as I sank deeper into a pit of hopelessness. One night, I screamed out to God on my knees, as a giant invisible force urged me to take my life.

“Just do it,” the voice kept saying. I struggled the whole night between the forces of life and death. Early the next morning I called a counselor, and within hours, I received professional help. After a couple of sessions and tests my doctor said, “It’s biochemical.”

Jeanne suffered from a mood disorder, a medical condition that causes changes in the brain’s chemistry. With the proper medication, within weeks her brain chemistry became balanced and the cloud of depression that almost claimed her life lifted.

There are a number of mental disorders that cause chemical imbalances in the brain and may contribute to suicidal behavior. Being on medication for the rest of your lifetime is a small price to pay for peace of mind.

Today, Jeanne lives a happy, normal life, and she gladly reaches out to others, often sharing her journey through depression. Her words are now words of wisdom: “Depression and thoughts of suicide are the despairing heart’s final cry. If you know someone who is suicidal, listen and believe. Then guide them to safe, supportive counselors who are trained to listen and to help them.”

Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. Jeremiah 29:12-13 (NIV)

 

This story was taken from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors and used with permission by New Hope Publishers.

See this video devotional by Jeremy Camp Video, a Christian entertainer. He signs part of  his song There Will be a Day after the devotional.

 

Whether you feel shame about events forced on you, or shame for mistakes you chose, when you give your life to Christ all is made new! Check out 2 Corinthians 5:17  in the New Living Translation:

This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!

and  see Romans 8:1:

Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.

Not sure how to find faith and have questions about God? Visit GodTest.com.

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Help When Thoughts of Suicide Filled My Mind

By PeggySu Wells:

Have you felt hopeless? My friend recalled this crossroad experience, which saved her life:

 

Stock Photo by Stuart Miles

Stock Photo by Stuart Miles

I was desperately sad and thoughts of suicide filled my mind. Life was tragically hard. Death appeared to be a tonic, a release from the unrequited pain. The only thing that stayed my hand was my children. I felt guilty leaving them. Still, I often thought about ending my life. I had even mentioned this to my pastor. He gave me a phone number.

Today I dialed the number.

“National Suicide Prevention Hotline.”

“I hurt so bad. I want to take a knife and stab it into my gut and twist it.”

The voice on the other end was gentle. “Don’t.”

I sagged back against the counter.

“And whenever you feel like you have to, just don’t. Whenever you have thoughts of suicide, just don’t.”

One understanding voice saved my life with one word. That was a long time ago. My children are grown and so are my grandchildren and I was here to be a positive part of their lives. Suicide seemed like the answer at the time, but now I can see it wasn’t.

 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline PSA (Kevin Hines from The Bridge)

If you or someone you know needs help, please call 1-800-273-TALK.

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When Crisis Triggers Thoughts of Suicide

By PeggySue Wells:

 Crisis. A crisis your life may be the loss of a loved one, a serious illness, an addiction problem, a job change,  relocation, or divorce. Some crises are devastating, changing our lives forever. Others are stressful, but eventually bring beneficial outcomes. A crisis often causes us to start over.

No matter what, all crises can feel overwhelming.

Often the difference between dropping into a deep pit of despair–and for some, thoughts of suicide (because there seems to be no hope)–and pulling through is knowing this is a temporary trial. This has everything to do with the support we allow ourselves to receive.

Difficult times are a fact of life. You’ve probably already experienced your share. And the future likely holds additional challenges for you and those you love. Christ said:“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”” (John 16:33  NIV Bible).

 “God knows how to lead us to the point of crisis, and He knows how to lead us through it…There is no way out but God.”    L. B. Cowman

By definition a crisis is a turning point. People in crisis can feel helpless and desperate. They live on the edge of hopelessness, often feeling powerless to change their situation. The stress is paralyzing. A crisis can destroy someone or it can make them stronger. The turning point comes in how we face the crisis.

“Oh, how shall I find help within myself? The power to aid myself is put out of my reach.

“Devotion is due from his friends to one who despairs and loses faith in the Almighty.” 

Job 6:12-13 (New English Bible)

God promises His children that the crises in our lives will not destroy us. He will be there to comfort and carry us through difficult times. The Holy Spirit is also referred to as the Paraclete (from the Greek word parakletos) meaning the comforter who comes alongside to aid or support; the advocate. Even when crisis triggers thoughts of suicide.

“We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.

“We always carry around in our body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be revealed in our body.” II Corinthians 4:7-10 (NIV Bible)

Here is a video that may help you:

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