Chat, Listen, Love: Video and Texting for Suicide Prevention

By PeggySue Wells:

Learn about, a Christian broadcast ministry using video and texting for suicide prevention.

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“In our six years, we helped prevent 70 suicide attempts,” said Clinton Faupel, director of

We chat, we listen, we love is the motto for this web based broadcast ministry that produces on-demand video and radio content based on a Biblical worldview. Heard in 176 countries, Remedy encourages young adults to live on purpose and not by accident.

“Teens are hurting.” According to Faupel nearly 5,000 teens and young adults in America commit suicide each year. Correspondingly 26 percent of teens have consumed alcohol, 20 percent engaged in sexting, and one in three struggle with pornography.

How powerful is the internet as a touch point for teens who are thinking about suicide? Every week, 60 percent of teens spend 20 or more hours on the internet. When someone needs to connect, Remedy wants to be there.

“We have 60 volunteer soulmedics available 24 hours a day, seven days a week to chat and pray with anyone via text, live chat, or email,” Faupel noted. In the past year Remedy has engaged 168,058 chats with teens who could share their struggles anonymously and get help right away.

Are you having thoughts of suicide? Being bullied? Are you practicing self-harming behaviors? Hurting because your parents are divorced? Need relationship advice? Remedy is a text away. Faupel said, “We offer hope in the midst of hurting.”

Contact Remedy at If you are thinking about suicide and need to talk, text “Remedy” to 313131.

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            PeggySue Wells is the author of more than a dozen books and serves as a soulmedic for

Our Posts for the Depressed and Suicidal

by Hope4You (Editor):

In our efforts here at Thinking About Suicide to help save lives, we want our posts easy for you to find if you are feeling depressed and suicidal.

I’ll continue to index many of  our posts with links, as I have below, to help you see the variety of topics we cover and different author viewpoints. If you feel one article hasn’t adequately addressed your feelings or questions, we hope you will read other articles and viewpoints to round out your view of what we have to offer.

As the sunflower turns to the sun, turn your mind toward hope, help and life. Image by Irish_Eyes

As the sunflower turns to the sun, turn your mind toward hope, help and life. Image by Irish_Eyes

DEPRESSED? SUICIDAL? There is hope and help.

Helpful Tips for the Clinically Depressed: Author James Watkins struggles with being clinically depressed, and recently wrote a letter to a friend who also struggles.


Treatment for Depression; Seasonal Affective Disorder and Nutritional Deficits (Wells): Treatment for depression should include addressing nutritional deficits. Also, Seasonal Affective Disorder causes depression in some.

Don’t Give Up and Commit Suicide: Check Your Physical Health (Wells): Thinking you should give up and commit suicide? Know that suicidal feelings may be caused by physical problems that can be corrected.

Bipolar Disorder Can Influence a Suicide Attempt (O’Connor)


You Can Survive Holiday Blues (Shepherd): Are you wondering if you can survive the holiday blues? Feeling a bit depressed post-holiday?


Teens Thinking About Suicide (Wells): Left untreated, depression can lead to teens thinking about suicide, and untreated depression is the number one cause of teen suicide.


Is There Hope? Take Action (Decision 3) (Furman, Is There Hope? series): Decision 3 from the Traveler’s Gift, by Andy Andrews.

Depression and Suicide Links (Gordon) by a marriage and family therapist, excerpt from Too Soon to Say Goodbye, Healing and Hope for the Suicide Victims and Survivors.


When Suicide Seems Like the Only Option : When suicide seems like the only option, having someone walk with you through your struggles can give you hope for the future.

When Suicide Seems the Only Option (2): A friend of Peggy’s shares hope for those who think suicide seems the only option.


Long-term Depression and Thoughts of Suicide (Wells): Do you struggle with long-term depression and at times feel insignificant? God says you are significant AND valuable.

Helping Students Understand Suicidal Thoughts (Kosman):  When talking to teens at a high school, we discussed suicidal thoughts, but also how unique and special each of those teens are.

Why Not Commit Suicide When I Have Nothing To Offer? (Copen): on chronic pain and illness, and still being able to make a difference in others’ lives.


Japanese Students – Please do not Kill Yourself (Shepherd)


Grief and Suicidal Thoughts: Loss of a Baby (Kosman) Sometimes grief and suicidal thoughts go hand-in-hand, and the loss of a baby may seem too great to bear. But God is there to comfort you.

Lost a Loved One? A Grief Lesson on ‘Firsts’ (Butts, 10 Things I’ve Learned About Grief series): the first year of ‘firsts’ in missing a loved one can tempt some to think about suicide.


Army Suicide Prevention: Faith and Counseling Help (Monetti): Military life presents unique marital challenges for the warrior and his or her family in an already stress-ridden society, but many army suicide casualties can be prevented.


FAITH––the Suicide Vaccine (Suicide Prevention): A pharmacist suggests a different kind of ‘vaccine’ for suicide prevention. We also encourage you to visit our sister site, to learn more about Christian faith, and also visit our site which addresses applying faith to many tough issues in life.

We welcome your comments and suggestions about topics we may not yet have addressed. I will do a separate roundup page for articles meant for survivors, in particular for family members who have lost loved ones to suicide.

Not all of our posts on depression and suicide  are listed here yet (this is officially our 100th post!) so do use our tabs at the top of the page and our Search box to find more articles here while I also attempt to add to this particular list. Many of our writers have felt as you do, while others have lost family members to the tragedy of suicide.

All our posts are written by caring people who desperately want to encourage you to go on living.

Look Here For Hope

help me God, suicide, the suicidal, help, facts, prevention, your problems, survivor’s guilt, survivor stories, and the loss of a loved one — as well as info for anyone thinking about suicide, suicde.Welcome to our search engine which includes helps, statistics, and hope concerning suicide and the suicidal. You will find facts, survivor stories, suicide prevention tips as well as answers to your survivor’s guilt after the loss of a loved one. You will also find helps and info if you are thinking about suicide.

Be sure to use our powerful search tool at the upper right hand  corner of this page to search our many topics and resources.  You can also check out our arcticle categories on the upper, white tool bar or on the lower right side of this page.  You can also scroll down to see a sampling or our articles.

If you are contemplating suicide, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). We will try to answer comments, but if you need a timely response, please call the phone number above.  (Also, see our disclaimer.)

Between a Rock and a Hard Place

By Liz Cowen Furman:

Sometimes the rough road we are traveling  leaves us feeling as if we are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Some even wonder if it’s worth the journey and consider suicide in their efforts to find relief.


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Many a person has called out to God with anguished questions like:

Does my life matter?

Do You care about me?

Can You hear me?

What is the point?

Do I have a purpose for being here?

Is there a plan somewhere in this mess?

Why hasn’t God healed me?

Or restored my marriage?

How am I going to get through this?

Will I die alone?

Are you up there?

A rock and a hard place all right. If any of these questions sound like you, or you have another, let me share some great news.

If the rock you are stuck between happens to be the Rock of Ages, Jesus, you are safe. He has promised us to be with us no matter what. (See Joshua 1:5)  That means no matter what we have done, or what has been done to us, He will stick by us. All we need to do is ask Him.

In this world, you will have trouble. John 16:33

Jesus’ own words to us, but read on He continues.

But take heart! I have overcome the world.

So, when rotten stuff happens to us, instead of stomping our feet and saying Why me! Why now? I’m going to commit suicide. If we remember that bad things happen to everyone. No exceptions. Then we won’t feel so singled out and tortured.

Instead of thinking of ending it all and quitting, why not lift our eyes to the Rock? Why not pour out our pain at His feet and allow Him to work on our behalf? Why not ask Him to take the reins, and the weight off our shoulders?

We can give our burdens to Him and then hang on for dear life to The Rock?

If you are ready for some help from the One who can actually give it, here is a simple prayer you can pray to ask Jesus to take over and give you peace.

Jesus, I believe that You are God. I believe that you are all powerful. I know I have messed up and sinned against You. I am sorry. I want to give You control of my life and let You lead from now on. Thank You for loving me and saving me. Amen

If you prayed this prayer today (or ever) then relax. He’s got this one. You and I will still have burdens this side of heaven, only now we don’t have to carry them alone. We can lift our eyes to the One who will help.

Now, go for a walk to get some fresh air. Then watch Fernando Ortega sing this great old hymn to remind us both that being between a rock and a hard place isn’t a bad thing if that rock is The ROCK. Jesus Christ.

When Suicide Seems Like the Only Option

By PeggySue Wells:

When suicide seems like the only option, having someone walk with you through your struggles can give you hope for the future.

Many have been where you are now, survived, then thrived. Ask for help! Your struggles can also teach you how to encourage others.


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Seasons of famine in our lives can be caused by broken relationships, financial struggles, or by periods of severe stress. For my friend it was all three at the same time.

Here is his experience:

“Through my own poor behavior choices, I lost my job, my house, and my wife.  Going through that loss brought me to the brink of suicide. I didn’t see any other option. But my mother faithfully drove out to spend time with me every weekend for four months. She had little money but she always treated me to a meal, movie, or shopping trip. She sacrificed her own needs for mine. If it were not for my mom, I wouldn’t be here today. She was lifeline when I was drowning in despair. When I was thinking about suicide, she showed me how to live again.

“From her example, I learned to look for the signs of depression in others and give a little of my time to be with that person. Going through that dark tunnel of hopelessness is brighter when someone shares the journey.”

“When helping someone, it is more important to bring hope than to be an expert.” Pat Palau (Breast cancer survivor)

When suicide seems like the only option–you feel you have lost everything–all is NOT lost. You still have help you can give others, and you don’t know the future God has in store for you.  Don’t cut that short!

If you are feeling desperate, be sure to share that with someone who can walk you through your journey. Tell them you are currently not seeing hope at the end of the tunnel, and ask directly for prayer and encouragement. Don’t assume they will know how desperate you feel unless you tell them. They too may have been through very difficult times in the past and be able to encourage you. You can even share your own story in a comment here, and our volunteers will definitely pray for you and reply in additional comments here on this site.

See also:

New Normal: New Hope After Trials

A Successful Suicide Prevention Story


Effects of a Suicide Note

By Susan Osborn:

Occasionally, a suicide note such as Angie’s in the following story is left. Sometimes, it is a last attempt for vengeance. It appears Angie had probably been jealous of her sister for years—jealous of her good grades and desire to earn a college education. The note caused Carol to drop out of college and to go into a deep depression. Only God’s intervention can explain how Carol put her life back together again.

This story was taken from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors and used with permission by New Hope Publishers.

Image by Simon Howden /

Image by Simon Howden /



Wanda J. Burnside

In one of my college classes, a girl kept staring at me. I couldn’t help but notice how thin and fragile she looked. I tried to make eye contact with her, but she always turned away. After a while, I decided to ignore her so I sat on the other side of the room.

One day after class, she stepped in front of me. Clutching her stack of books close to her chest, she said, “Hi! I’m Carol.”

“Hi! I’m Wanda,” I replied.

She smiled, then looked away.            

Hey, Wanda!” I heard someone call out, “Are you going to the student union with us for lunch?

I turned to see a group of my friends from class motioning to me. “Yeah, I’m coming,” I answered.

Go on,” said Carol. Don’t let me stop you.”

No. Please come with us. Let’s talk,” I said.

Well, I don’t know… she hesitated and then continued, I usually…

Wanda, come on and bring your friend,” said Charles.

So we ran to catch up with the others. My friends accepted Carol, and from that day on, she went everywhere with us. She transformed from someone painfully shy to someone outgoing. Everybody saw the difference in her. Even the professors made comments about her budding personality.

One day, a group of us decided to walk to a new restaurant across the street from the campus. As we reached the parking lot, up drove a shiny red convertible. “Carol!” shouted a pretty girl with flowing hair. She got out of the car. “Carol!”

Carol stood frozen with a look of fear and sheer desperation on her face. Her hands began to shake. Her eyes filled with tears, and for several moments she remained silent.

The other girl wore colorful, tight-fitting clothes that clung to her curves. Plus she had a beautiful, flawless, complexion.              

“Carol! Today’s my birthday! Remember? My friends are coming over tonight, and you promised to decorate for my party! Why are you here? I told Mama you’d ruin everything for me. You, your good grades, and your school!” she yelled.

This is my sister, Angie,” Carol softly said with tears rolling down her face. Excuse me, everyone.” Then they got into the car and drove away.

“Carol never mentioned her sister,” Charles commented. “They’re so opposite.”                       

“Angie is a fox, and Carol’s so skinny!” Terry laughed.           

“Hey guys. Stop! Carol is our friend,” said Barbara.     

Two weeks passed, and Carol had not returned to school. Several of us tried to phone her, but no one could reach her. We all wondered what happened.

One evening while doing my homework at home, my mother called me to the phone.

I listened to a distraught voice. “I’m Carol’s mom. My daughter…she died. Life isn’t the same without my beautiful daughter,” she cried.

“Carol died?” I asked.

Another voice came on the phone. “Hello, Wanda.”

“Carol. Carol, is it you? What is going on?”

“My sister, Angie…she killed herself. She drove into our garage, rolled up the windows, and left the engine running. She also left a long letter—one that blamed me. Angie said I had everything—friends, good grades, and a boyfriend.”

I couldn’t believe it. Angie, dead?

Shortly after our phone conversation, Carol dropped out of school. We later learned she was hospitalized for depression. None of us knew what to do. Carol’s absence created a void in all our lives.

A year later, Carol called me. “Hi, Wanda, this is Carol.”

“Carol,” I hesitated, “how are you?”

“I’m fine. I’m living in California and attending college. I’m also engaged.”

“Carol, you sound happy. I’m so glad for you.” I continued, “We’ve all missed you.”

“Yeah, Wanda, I miss all of you, too. You know, I turned to God. My sister’s jealousy and hatred caused me a lot of pain. Yet, I’ll always miss her. God helped me to accept the unacceptable. Angie chose to die. I choose to live.”

If you are depressed and contemplating suicide, there are a number of resources available as near as your telephone. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.

Army Suicide Prevention: Faith and Counseling Help

By Penny Monetti:

Military life presents unique marital challenges for the warrior and his or her family in an already stress-ridden society, but many army suicide casualties can be prevented.


Called to Serve, by Penny and Tony Monettii offers encouragement to soldiers and their families.

Called to Serve, by Penny and Tony Monettii offers encouragement to soldiers and their families.

My family looked forward to attending my son’s first Army Christmas party this last December. After 24 years as an Air Force pilot’s spouse, I was looking forward to observing a different military branch, meeting my son’s Army unit, and being the party guest instead of the party planner.

It was time to relax. During our military years, I helped organize holiday parties: From bases spanning from America’s heartland to the deep South. From New York to California’s coast. All the way to bases located in Europe. For weeks, my son, Antonio, verified that no commitments or unexpected time conflicts would interfere with us attending his first Army holiday gathering. He was excited that his dad, a B-2 stealth bomber pilot, would meet his fellow Army reservists and commanders.

When we pulled into the base parking lot for the awaited festive day, Antonio met us with apprehension. His normal ruddy complexion was ghostly pale, and he had a forlorn look that will be forever ingrained in my memory. He shared the devastating news.

Someone at the base had taken his own life just the day before.

Unfortunately, this military unit’s suicide is not an isolated incident. A 2010 report indicated that an average of eighteen military veterans committed suicide daily (Maize, 2010). The number of suicides among US Army active duty and Reserve personnel in 2012 was higher than the total combined military fatalities from Operation Enduring Freedom in Afghanistan over the same time frame (Burke, 2012).

Military life presents unique marital challenges for the warrior and his or her family in an already stress-ridden society, such as: Deployments, dangerous missions, reintegration into family, civilian, and college life after separations, numerous relocations, and post-traumatic stress to name a few. Depression can be the fall out from any of these challenges.

Unless you’ve experienced the darkness of depression, you cannot relate to its vice-like grip it seemingly holds on the afflicted person’s life, whether you are affiliated with the military or a civilian.

If you or someone you know has expressed suicidal thoughts, do not ignore the warning signs, hoping they will disappear on their own. Seek immediate professional guidance, but before locating help, submit your challenges to the Lord and ask for His guidance to finding counsel. Know that before you begin this journey you are not alone:

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9.

Depression is a very real enemy, but the Lord reassures us:

“The one who is in you  (The Holy Spirit) is greater than the one (Satan) who is in the world.” 1 John 4:4.

The Lord further strengthens us with the promise:

“I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart because I have overcome the world.” 1 John 16:33.

Notice that the Lord makes clear that the indwelling spirit triumphs over evil. So how do we get this internal protector to abide within us?

It’s actually extremely simple. We invite the Lord into our lives by confessing that we are sinners and believing that Jesus is the Son of God, He died on the cross, and rose from the dead to save us from our own sins. This belief assures us eternal life in heaven.

What have you got to lose? Perhaps you don’t buy into the whole Jesus will save me if I say those words idea, but you long to. You can take comfort knowing that you are not alone in your doubt. Some of the Biblical “greats” struggled to believe God’s promises, as well. John the Baptist, who fiercely preached that Jesus was the Messiah, doubted his own declaration when he was at his lowest.

While imprisoned in the foul atmosphere of a dark gloomy dungeon fortress tucked within the savage cliffs of Moab, John doubted Christ as the true Messiah. John, who formerly held the firmest convictions that Jesus Christ was the true Savior, wavered in His conviction. After all, Jesus was not performing as John expected. This prophet was not axing the trees, winnowing the field, and judging the unrighteous. He was gentle of spirit, humble, and forgiving. So he asked two disciples to simply ask Jesus if he were truly the Messiah or should they expect another.

Instead of rendering a yes or no answer, Jesus asked the disciples to convey to John the awesome wonders that they witnessed: The blind could now see. The lame could walk. Leper’s infected flesh was cleansed.  The down trodden were uplifted. Jesus then continued to praise John. He didn’t ridicule him for his doubt, but explained those doing God’s work would be persecuted whether they dined with tax collectors or ate locusts from the land.

If you doubt God’s power and feel God has not lived up to your expectations, you are in good company; however, get ready, because once you invite God into your heart and submit your challenges to Him, you will be spiritually awakened, shaken, and claimed as God’s adopted child. You will begin to experience that God works all things for His purpose in your life, even the bad stuff. (Romans 8:28)

Sinking to a low point in life can cause doubt in Christ and imprison you in the wretched pit of depression’s confinement. If this depression remains unaddressed, it can lead to suicide, but once you acknowledge your doubts, confess them to God, and make healing your new mission, there is nothing that can stop the restoration process. Roman 8: 38-39 promises:

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons neither the present nor the future, nor any powers neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Remember, you are not alone. God is waiting for you to reach out to Him from your place of despair where the enemy is holding you captive.

“He reached down from on high and took hold of me; He drew me out of deep waters. He rescued me from my powerful enemy.”  Psalm 18: 16-17.

There are some great military sources to help you or your loved one overcome depression. Military OneSource provides FREE online counseling and will pay for 12 counseling visits that will not transferred to military health records. Focus on the Family will help you  find a Christian counselor in your area:

To get immediate help, call the Military Crisis Line at 800-273-8255 and press 1, or chat online now for 24/7 access to trained counselors. is another organization to help military veterans combat this very real enemy.


What is My Purpose?

Linda Evans Shepherd:

If you have ever wondered, ‘What is my purpose?’, you’re moving in the right direction.  Did you know that people who discover their purpose are happier, less likely to harm themselves and more likely to live fulfilling lives than those who never work through this question?

So, if you’re feeling down, confused, or just stuck, it’s a good idea to take some time to explore your purpose.  And yes of course you do have one — you have a purpose for good, not for evil and God agrees.

Ephesians 3:20-21 (AMP) says,

Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams.]

What this means is that through God’s power working in you, God will superabundantly use your life in ways even better that what you’ve prayed, desired, thought, hoped or dreamed.   And it also means that even if you’ve never even desired a goal or dream for your life, God can surprise you with a powerful purpose. But it might help you to pray:

Dear Lord,

I’m praying now for purpose, and I’m asking that you give me the dreams and goals that you have for me.  I also ask for your supernatural ability to follow those dreams and goals —  in your power.  Make my life count Lord, with purpose, your purpose.  And the best of it is, I know that you can take my past mistakes and turn them around into wonderful purposes like helping others through the same difficulties I’ve survived.

But whatever Lord, I’ve decided to give my live for  you and trust you with my future.

In Jesus name,


If you would like to know more about having a relationship with God, click HERE.

Are you still wondering, ‘What is my purpose?’.  I suggest you take a peek at the YouTube below with Ophra and Bishop T.D. Jakes who says, “We may not be perfect people living in perfect situations, but we all have the ability to ignite our passions and find our true purpose at any age.”

Watch the conclusion of Bishop Jakes’ lecture below:

Keep Writing Your Story

By Martha Bolton:

No matter how desperate you feel, don’t cut short the life God has planned for you. Keep writing your story.


I’m the youngest in my family. My sister, Melva, who is the next youngest, is currently battling two forms of uterine cancer.

Assessing her life, she recently shared with me a time in her teens when she wondered if life was worth the pain.  She had been going through difficult circumstances and felt overwhelmed.  She remembers looking into the mirror and contemplating ending it all.

But then she breathed.  She took a moment to consider the finality of such an action and she changed her mind.  Today, she and so many others who love her are so very thankful that she did.

What has followed has been decades of a life that she cherishes.  Two marriages, four children, three step children, and many beloved grandchildren later, she is proud and appreciative for what life has given to her.

Has she had trials, challenges, and hurts since that day in her teens?  Yes, but she has also had wonderful things happen to her.  More importantly, she has given much to this world– contributions that would have been sorely missed had she not been here to offer her unique gifts.

Throughout her life, she has worked with missionaries on an Indian reservation and performed missions work in Alaska.  As an adult she has volunteered for at least three national disasters with the Red Cross.  She has donated her hair multiple times for cancer victims (she was doing this years before she developed the disease herself.  Before her first chemo treatment, she did it again.)

She’s had the opportunity to travel to Africa, Egypt, Europe, and many other places (awards for work achievements), and she’s met President Bill Clinton.

In the midst of her own pain, she has always had an ear to listen to other people’s problems–even perfect strangers.  She once had a taxi driver break down and weep as he began sharing his life within minutes of her getting into his cab.  I was there.  I saw it, and I’ve seen it many times since.  She has that effect on people.  A heart that size is hard to hide.

She’s taken people into her home, and has traveled from state to state, often sleeping in her car on her way to visit elderly relatives and friends and help them with whatever they needed.  She has never hesitated giving to those truly in need, often giving what she didn’t have herself.

Has life always been fair?  No.  Has it been tough?  Many times.  Has she been tempted to give up?  Maybe.  But she hasn’t.  She’s held on and continues to this day adding more chapters to her story, turning page after page after page.

Do you realize you’re the writer of your own story?  The chapter you’re in right now might be full of things you’d rather not have to include in your story.  But don’t stop turning the pages.  Sooner or later you’re going to see some of those situations get resolved.  You’re going to have a victory where you didn’t see any hope at all.  You’re going to get some understanding and clarity as to why certain things have happened in your life.  You’re going to get past this hurt, learn from it (even if it’s having better boundaries next time) and move on.  You’ll even find some comic relief somewhere along the way and regain your ability to laugh again.

Just a few weeks ago Melva was told that the nine chemo treatments are not working.  But in spite of that prognosis, she is still writing her story.  She isn’t ready to type “The End” just yet.  That is in God’s hands and his timing.

Until then, she’s giving it all she’s got.  She would say without hesitation that even with all the ups and downs of life, her story is so much richer than it ever would’ve been had she stopped writing it before God said it was time.

So whatever you’re feeling right now, don’t type “The End” while your story is still evolving.  Keep turning the pages.  Keep living your story.  You never know what you’ll miss if you close the book too soon.

Feeling suicidal, call the Suicide Prevention hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

If you ‘d like to find out how a relationship with Jesus Christ can change your life, visit

Suicidal? Ask for Help: Send Up a Flare!

By Martha Bolton:

Feeling suicidal? Or seriously depressed?  Do ask for help. Send up a flare!

Image from Wikipedia: Flares are sent up during military exercises so soldiers are prepared for when they must call for help.

If you had been hit by a car, you wouldn’t get up and limp along on broken legs, hoping bones would snap back into place, would you? Or  if suffering from internal bleeding, hope it would somehow stop on its own?

Of course not.

Some situations we go through in life can leave us feeling like we’ve been hit by a car, can’t they?  Or a train.

But just as we wouldn’t expect our bodies to heal on their own from a real car wreck, we can’t expect our emotions to heal on their own in the aftermath of life’s disappointments and calamities either.

If you’re injured, send up a flare.  Let someone know you’re hurting.

Help is available.

Call a hotline, a friend, your pastor, a counselor; call someone!  If you can’t reach your first choice, call the next one.  And the next.  Keep going until the right person for that moment in your life answers.

Even if you’re already getting help, but find yourself at an especially low point right now, speak up and tell someone.  If you were in the hospital after a car wreck, and the pain got too severe during the night, you’d ring for the nurse, right?  No matter what time it was, you’d let her know how badly you were feeling.

If it’s in the middle of your night, if the emotional pain is unbearable, pick up the phone and make a call.  Or walk into the next room and wake someone up.  Reach out to somebody.  Like injuries sustained in a car wreck, many emotional injuries can’t sufficiently heal without being attended to either.

So don’t limp along on your brokenness, hoping your emotions will heal on their own and then when they don’t, take matters into your own hands. Suicide isn’t the answer.

You’ve been wounded, perhaps deeply.  There’s no shame in asking for help for those wounds.  Don’t attempt to go it alone.  Wounds can heal. Broken hearts can mend.  Disappointments can turn around.  Pain can subside.  But the first step is to let someone know you’re bleeding.

Feeling suicidal?  Not sure who to call?

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), is a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress.