Suicide Prevention in the Midst of an Attempt

By Jeenie Gordon:

Many times there can be suicide prevention. Often people are so desperate that in a moment of insanity they choose to get out of their enormous emotional pain by an act which can be non-reversible. Even at the time of despair when the act has been taken, they wish they could turn back the clock. In those seconds, some are able to reach out in desperation for help.

One Saturday, a client, who had received my private number through a speaking brochure telephoned my home. My heart pounded as she softly slurred out her words, “Jeenie, I took a bottle of meds.”

I questioned what they were, but she didn’t know. Since I was not in my office, I did not remember the medication she was taking, nor her address. Over and over I asked, “Tell me your address.” Hesitantly she finally mumbled it.

Dialing 911 I was able to give her location. “We’re on the way,” the paramedics assured me. Later, I was able to locate her husband.

Immediately after, I called her psychiatrist on his emergency cell phone. He remembered what medication she was taking and stated “An overdose can kill her.”

After making the calls, my heart was nearly pounding out of my chest. I earnestly prayed, “Dear God, get them to her in time. Save her life.”

The next week she came in for a therapy session to continue dealing with her underlying issues. “I didn’t really want to die, Jeenie. That’s why I called you.”

I knew God had led my client to reach out to me in her time of desperation for suicide prevention. We continued in therapy for another year, and I saw great improvement and emotional health emerge. The suicidal thinking ceased.

Sometimes a suicidal person has time and the mental ability to call for help. In my experience, it is most often after pills have been ingested. In that short window of time, help can come if called immediately.

In the case of my client, I needed to speak with the psychiatrist to determine the medication so I could inform the paramedics in order for them to administer the proper treatment.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a solvable problem and is never the answer or way out. Families and friends are left in deep despair for the remainder of their lives, often wondering what they did wrong and trying to make sense of the tragedy, when there is none.

Never take lightly a call for help. Take immediate action and you, too, may help save a life.

In a crisis, contact: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a 24-hour, toll-free crisis hotline funded by the federal government that will direct callers to a nearby crisis center. The Lifeline will accept calls from non-English speakers.

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Help, I am Having Suicidal Thoughts

 

If you’ve ever typed into an Internet search engine, or cried out in prayer, “Help, I am having suicidal thoughts,” you’re not alone. According to an article by Ankur Saraiya, MD on Howcast, “Suicide is not necessarily an abnormal thought. It’s not necessarily a sign of major illness. In some ways it’s perfectly natural for people to have thoughts that life is too overwhelming when something very bad has just happened.”

But what do you do about it?

  1. Don’t act on your thoughts.
  2. If you need help, get help.  Call a suicide hotline. If you need to talk to someone right now;  otherwise, make an appointment with your doctor for a checkup and while there, talk to her about your feelings.
  3. Pray! Talking to God can really help.  Below is a prayer to help get you started:

Dear Lord,

I’ll admit that I feel betrayed by my circumstances and feelings of despair, and I have to wonder if you love me so much, why aren’t you taking better care of me, fixing my pain, or changing my situation?  I confess these thoughts of anger and confusion to you. In fact, I give my anger and confusion as well as my problems to you. I know you love me and I also know you have a bigger perspective of my life than I do.  I even know that you can turn anything into a miracle.  So, though I feel angry, sad, and confused, I want to say to  you:

My problems are now your problems.  I give them to you and ask that you turn my problems into miracles.  I ask that you calm my broken heart and carry my pain.  I ask that you forgive me of my sins, through your son Jesus’ sacrifice for my sins on the cross.  I give my whole self to you.  In fact Lord, now I am your problem too.  And in that, I invite your presence to walk with me through this storm.  I will turn my focus from the wind and the waves,to your unfailing love and kindness.  I say, I will trust you and live.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen

To find more answers to your questions about God, take our Godtest.  Also, watch this helpful video produced by Howcast as posted on Youtube with Dr. Ankur Saraiya for more ideas on how to get help, especially if you are having suicidal thoughts.

You might also be interested in PeggySu Wells’ story about Help When Thoughts of Suicide Filled My Mind.

Suicidal? Need Help Now? Call 911 or 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or

1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) or

Text Telephone: 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889)

Military Veterans Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (Press 1)

Suicide Hotline in Spanish: 1-800-273-TALK (Press 2)

LGBT Youth Suicide Hotline: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR

 

Help When Thoughts of Suicide Filled My Mind

By PeggySu Wells:

Have you felt hopeless? My friend recalled this crossroad experience, which saved her life:

 

Stock Photo by Stuart Miles

Stock Photo by Stuart Miles

I was desperately sad and thoughts of suicide filled my mind. Life was tragically hard. Death appeared to be a tonic, a release from the unrequited pain. The only thing that stayed my hand was my children. I felt guilty leaving them. Still, I often thought about ending my life. I had even mentioned this to my pastor. He gave me a phone number.

Today I dialed the number.

“National Suicide Prevention Hotline.”

“I hurt so bad. I want to take a knife and stab it into my gut and twist it.”

The voice on the other end was gentle. “Don’t.”

I sagged back against the counter.

“And whenever you feel like you have to, just don’t. Whenever you have thoughts of suicide, just don’t.”

One understanding voice saved my life with one word. That was a long time ago. My children are grown and so are my grandchildren and I was here to be a positive part of their lives. Suicide seemed like the answer at the time, but now I can see it wasn’t.

 

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline PSA (Kevin Hines from The Bridge)

If you or someone you know needs help, please call 1-800-273-TALK.

Suicide is NOT the Final Solution

By Karen Kosman

The pain of suicide is like a jigsaw puzzle. No matter how we try, we cannot make the pieces fit together. Suicide is not the final solution. It only leaves a painful aftermath for the ones who love you. For that reason I share a portion of the letter I wrote to my son who died of suicide at the age of 23.

Dear Robbie,

Each year on your birthday, I stop and ponder what you may have become. What wonderful accomplishments you would have achieved if you’d chosen to stay. I wonder if you would have married and how many grandchildren you’d have given me. I’ll never know—you went away too soon. I miss your hugs. You always seemed to know when I needed one. I miss your smile; it always brightened my day.

 I felt a lot of anger when you left. It’s hard not knowing why you chose to leave. God impressed on my heart that I could be bitter, feel guilty, and show anger, or I could let go of those emotions—not with my own strength, but with His.

 I love you, Robbie, which will never change. But when I stand at your grave site, I can’t put my arms around you anymore. I have so many sweet memories, but I don’t have you anymore. At holidays and special moments with family, there is always an empty chair.

I am sharing your life and death with others in hopes that it prevents someone else’s son or daughter, mom or dad, or friend or relative from dying by suicide.

I know, if you could, you’d tell people that no matter how difficult life seems, it will get better. You always learned through trial and error. Robbie, your life had purpose, and I know that your suicide was your ultimate act of impulsiveness—but at what cost…

 Love,

Mom

For the suicidal individual who wants only to escape pain—there is hope. There are people who care, who have walked on the edge, but overcame. We want you live; to have a future.  Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). Or dial 211 for help in locating essential community services, such as mental health services. The final solution is choosing to live and getting help.

Do you not know? Have you not heard? The LORD is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and his understanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint. Isaiah 40:28-31

 

This blog post is an excerpt from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors and is used with permission by New Hope Publishers.

The following is the true story of Kellie Borden, who is glad she survived to realize suicide is not the final solution.