Teens Thinking About Suicide

By PeggySue Wells:

Are you one of those teens thinking about suicide? Think on these facts, instead.

 

Girls report depression more often than boys; boys are less likely to recognize depression.

Left untreated, depression can lead to teens thinking about suicide, and untreated depression is the number one cause of teen suicide. Only 33 percent of teens get help.

Yet 80 percent of teens with depression can be treated successfully.

If you are a teen, or know a teen, or work with teens, Remedy.fm is a resource available 24/7. A positive internet radio, Remedy.fm is interactive. Listeners can text in around the clock and talk with a soul medic – trained volunteers available to listen, and chat. No matter what your situation, people are waiting to talk to you. They want to help. They care.

Log in to Remedy.fm at www.RemedyLive.com  If you are thinking about suicide, click on the suicide tab on the ‘Need Help’ bar. To chat anonymously with a soul medic, click Live Chat Now. You can also see a video on that page, including statistics, then a movie clip, than a frank discussion about reasons for many teens thinking about suicide.

If you are depressed and contemplating suicide, you can also find help by dialing the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. If your life is immediately at risk, dial 911.

Don’t be a statistic.

This article was written by PeggySu Wells, a multi-book author who is also a soulmedic with Remedy.fm. For more information about Remedy.fm, watch this video with Director Clinton Faupel: http://bit.ly/SqyDsy.

How to Comfort Someone Who Has Lost a Loved One

Do you wonder how to comfort someone who has lost a loved one, even to suicide? Just show you care. Here are a few ways:

By PeggySu Wells:

 When someone loses a loved one to suicide, what do I say? How can I be the hands of Jesus to someone who is suffering loss?

In times of deep grief, I have found that hope is more important than advice.

Job said it this way, “Do I have the strength of stone? Is my flesh bronze? Do I have any power to help myself, now that success has been driven from me? A despairing man should have the devotion of his friends,” (Job 6:12 – 14 NIV).

During those dark hours, Jesus calls us not to be experts, but to come alongside and provide enCOURAGEment.

“A friend sent flowers on that first sad Mother’s Day after my child died,” my Sunday school teacher said. “I felt loved and understood.”

Another grieving mother said, “After the loss of my son, some people felt awkward when they saw me and turned away. I appreciated those who hugged me and said, ‘I’m praying for you.’”

Trusting God when we least understand is faith in action. Gentle comfort is given by those that put their arms around hurting people and say, “I don’t understand either. But I love you and I am here to go through this with you.”

Romans 8:38-39 (NIV) promises, “I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

One man said, “I was comforted by those who walked with me in the church parking lot, who sat with me so I wouldn’t be alone in my regular pew, and who invited me to lunch on an otherwise lonely weekend afternoon.”

Time doesn’t heal the wounds of someone who has had to say good-by to a loved one. Time merely teaches us to live with that over-sized, gaping hole in our life and heart. We can walk beside another through the journey of grief. Ecclesiastes 4:10 (NIV) says,

“If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!”

The first year after the loss of someone special is especially difficult. Holidays are a merciless reminder that life is forever altered. Comfort your grieving friend with flowers, a note, or a memorial gift in their loved one’s name on Valentines Day, Easter, Mother’s or Father’s Day, birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years. Soothe the sorrow of the anniversary date that marks the loss with a phone call to say, “I’m remembering you today.”

Called to mirror Jesus Christ by being His hands to a hurting world, we help others by seeing and empathizing with their pain. God consoles us so we can show compassion to others.

For additional information on coming alongside someone experiencing loss and grief, read What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Say (Bethany House) and An Early Journey Home (Discovery House).

Grieving the Suicide of Family Members

By PeggySu Wells:

At a family reunion, we grieved the suicide of family members, causing two people to be permanently missed.


Does this symbolize your own broken “family tree”? Who will be missed at your own family reunion?

Last weekend was our annual family reunion. Because of the suicide of family members, there were two important people missing. Because of suicide, several of the people in attendance were deeply hurt, and all of us were affected.

My cousin is two years older than me, and the most beautiful girl I know. When we were kids, her dad committed suicide. Today my cousin is a grandmother, and we still do not know why her father took his life. It was a shock. His wife and my cousin never recovered.

Last year, like his grandfather before him, my cousin’s son took his life. Very calculated, he did this in a fashion that his mother would be the one to find him. It devastated her on many levels. As the days go by, she merely learns to live with the gaping hole in her heart. Life for her is forever altered.

I cannot begin to fathom what these two men were thinking that led to their decisions. Her father. Her son. But from an outsider’s view, I see this as a selfish act because of the sad impact these choices wrought on those left behind. The close loved ones. The wives and mothers who loved these men.

When they thought about suicide, was this the legacy they wanted to leave on their family? Is this what they envisioned the family tree would look like for their children?

Suicide doesn’t appear to have been the answer to any problem. To have solved anything. Suicide certainly has proven to cause generations of unanswered questions, family members left feeling abandoned and shamed, and an unquenchable sadness that blankets their hearts.

We can learn from the experience of others. Perhaps this father and this son believed their situation was dire. Unfixable. Without alternatives. Yet, today their family members live at a different address, in a different state. Settings and people change.

I understand that suicide may be filling your thoughts. And there are other options. Please make a choice that is healthy for you and for those around you. Get the help you need. People are available to support you through the rugged times. The number for the suicide hotline is 1-800-784-2433.

(I Believe, Help Thou My Unbelief by the Gaither Trio in their studio)

Feeling Lonely and Distraught? Never Alone

By PeggySue Wells:

Are you feeling lonely and distraught today? In truth, you are never alone.

 

I heard of a woman who followed her husband to a foreign country. This was years ago, when communication was limited. In this remote place where she didn’t know anyone–nor did she speak the language–the couple welcomed their first baby.

Then the husband was called away for work. For weeks he was out of touch. During the time he was gone, the baby developed a high fever. The neighboring women became aware of the situation and came by with their remedies. But the child’s condition worsened and the child died.

Through the sorrowful days of losing her son, the young mother was never alone. Compassionate neighbors took turns being with her. Though they didn’t know each other or understand each other’s words, there was always someone near with a pair of helping hands, empathetic eyes, a gentle touch. It was the gift of presence. Of just being there.

When we experience loneliness and desperation, we often feel completely abandoned. This woman later said that though it didn’t look the way she thought it should, though her husband was not with her, she was never alone.

How often are our needs met, but in a completely unexpected manner?

You yourself are truly never alone. God is always present, personal, and cares about you.

If you don’t understand how this can be, and are not sure how you can know God personally, visit our other site: GodTest.com. The quiz and articles there may help answer some of your questions about faith and to realize you aren’t alone in your suffering. God loves you.

Also, when you are feeling lonely and suffering, don’t be afraid to ask others for help. There are many people with great compassion who just need to be asked and would be willing to help you.

Good Medicine for Thoughts of Suicide

By PeggySue Wells:

When thoughts of suicide overshadow our days, professionals frequently recommend we do something for someone else.

Is there anything to this? What is the rationale?

How often has another heard of my struggles, only to respond, “I didn’t know.”

My friend just posted that her young son died. I didn’t know he was ill. I was unaware of her sorrow. Hearing her sad news brought me out of myself as I was filled with compassion for her family.

I am not the only one struggling. As much as I long for someone to share my journey so it is not so lonely, to help me shoulder my cares so they are not so heavy, others may be silently having the same experience. In the dark pit of depression where thoughts of suicide dominate, it is not easy to reach out. But it is good medicine. For both of us.

 

Chances to be Angels

  By Adelaide Proctor

It isn’t the thing you do, dear,

It’s the thing you leave undone,

That gives you the bitter heartache

At the setting of the sun;

The tender word unspoken,

The letter you did not write,

The flower you might have sent, dear,

Are your haunting ghosts at night.

 

The stone you might have lifted

Out of your brother’s way,

The bit of heartfelt counsel

You were hurried too much to say;

The loving touch of the hand, dear,

The gentle and winsome tone,

That you had no time or thought for,

With troubles enough of your own.

 

These little acts of kindness

So easily out of mind,

These chances to be angels,

Which even mortals find—

They come in nights of silence,

To take away the grief,

When hope is faint and feeble,

And a drought has stopped belief.

 

For life is all too short, dear.

And sorrow is all too great,

To allow our slow compassion

That tarries until too late.

And it’s not the thing you do, dear,

It’s the thing you leave undone,

That gives you the bitter heartache

At the setting of the sun.

 

See  another article on our site, on this topic: Fight Thoughts Of Suicide With One Random Act of Kindness