I Need Hope Now

 Linda Evans Shepherd:

If you are thinking: I need hope now, there indeed is hope:

 

If you have been on a diet of frustration, despair and pain then you may be thinking, I need hope now.

But how do you find it? Why not try feasting on my five favorite scriptures about hope to see if they’ll make a difference:

1.  “So be strong and courageous, all you who put your hope in the Lord!” Psalm 31:24

2.  “For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11

3.  “I say to myself, ‘The Lord is my inheritance; therefore, I will hope in him!’” Lamentations 3:24

4. I pray that God, the source of hope, will fill you completely with joy and peace because you trust in him. Then you will overflow with confident hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13

5.  “Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.” 1 Corinthians 13:13

Let’s pray these Scriptures back to the Lord as a prayer:

Dear Lord,

I choose to be strong and courageous and to put my hope in you.  For you have plans for me that are for good and not for disaster, to give me a future and a hope.

My hope is in you because you are my inheritance, meaning you have stored up purpose, love and life for me. As the source of hope, you will fill me with joy and peace because I choose to trust in you. Therefore, you will overflow my heart with confident hope through, not my own power, but the power of the Holy Spirit.

You will do this because you love me because it is written, “Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.”  Therefore I choose to claim, to believe to trust that your love is for me.  And that love changes everything.

Thank you!

In Jesus’ name,

Amen

If you want to know more about starting a relationship with God, click HERE.  In the meantime, I encourage you to cling to these scriptures, and to feed your soul with them whenever you feel hungry for hope.

Take a moment to watch what people would say to those who need more hope in their lives.

What is My Purpose?

Linda Evans Shepherd:

If you have ever wondered, ‘What is my purpose?’, you’re moving in the right direction.  Did you know that people who discover their purpose are happier, less likely to harm themselves and more likely to live fulfilling lives than those who never work through this question?

So, if you’re feeling down, confused, or just stuck, it’s a good idea to take some time to explore your purpose.  And yes of course you do have one — you have a purpose for good, not for evil and God agrees.

Ephesians 3:20-21 (AMP) says,

Now to Him Who, by (in consequence of) the [action of His] power that is at work within us, is able to [carry out His purpose and] do superabundantly, far over and above all that we [dare] ask or think [infinitely beyond our highest prayers, desires, thoughts, hopes, or dreams.]

What this means is that through God’s power working in you, God will superabundantly use your life in ways even better that what you’ve prayed, desired, thought, hoped or dreamed.   And it also means that even if you’ve never even desired a goal or dream for your life, God can surprise you with a powerful purpose. But it might help you to pray:

Dear Lord,

I’m praying now for purpose, and I’m asking that you give me the dreams and goals that you have for me.  I also ask for your supernatural ability to follow those dreams and goals —  in your power.  Make my life count Lord, with purpose, your purpose.  And the best of it is, I know that you can take my past mistakes and turn them around into wonderful purposes like helping others through the same difficulties I’ve survived.

But whatever Lord, I’ve decided to give my live for  you and trust you with my future.

In Jesus name,

Amen

If you would like to know more about having a relationship with God, click HERE.

Are you still wondering, ‘What is my purpose?’.  I suggest you take a peek at the YouTube below with Ophra and Bishop T.D. Jakes who says, “We may not be perfect people living in perfect situations, but we all have the ability to ignite our passions and find our true purpose at any age.”

Watch the conclusion of Bishop Jakes’ lecture below:

I Got Fired – Is My Life Over?

Linda Evans Shepherd:

Help, I got fired!

A couple of days ago, I got an email from the Philippines from a young woman who’d lost her job because of a mistake she’d made at work.  “I got fired, is my life over?” ‘Amy asked me.

“Now I know you have a future and a purpose,” I explained, because it was God who called you to write me tonight.  You could not have known that 30 years ago, I had a very similar experience.  I too was fired and humiliated because of a mistake my boss made.

She made me the fall guy (girl!), embarrassed me in front of my colleagues, then escorted me out of the building with a cardboard box of my belongings.  As a young woman just out of college, I was devastated.  I felt shamed and wept hot, angry tears, fearing I would never find my way around what turned out to be a mere bump in the road.

You see, God redeemed it all.  I went on to find a better job, to start a family, and then to answer God’s call for my life and to write almost 30 books to help others.

“So you see, you too will get past this.  But what you need to do is give this circumstance, your very life to God, and ask him to lead you to a new purpose.  Despite what it feels like now, it’s all going to be okay.”

Amy wrote me back.  “I had tears of joy in my eyes when I read your letter.  I am so excited.  Now I know I have a future.”

And my friend, if you too have also been fired, know that you have a future too.  Things may not turn around overnight, but they will turn around. Everything is going to be all right as you learn to trust God with this situation.

Pray this:

Dear Lord,

Despite my circumstances, I choose to trust you.  I call on you to provide for me and my family, not just financially but with purpose.  Lord, give me a clever idea, a witty invention, an anointing of favor – to get me the job you have for me.

I trust you.

In Jesus name,

Amen.

If you need to know God better, take this quick test.

Oh, and know that a lot of people have survived being fired.  Here’s another story below:

I Hate my Job!

Linda Evans Shepherd:

I once met a woman who told me, “I hate my job,” and expressed that she wanted to die.  But as we began to talk, what  happened next was so remarkable that I wrote about it in my book, When You Don’t Know What to Pray – How to Talk to God About Anything.

See the excerpted story below:

After speaking at an event in Iowa, I was chatting with the soloist when a grandmother in her early sixties approached us. Her conference nametag read “Barb” and she said, “Linda, I appreciated your talk today on joy but it didn’t help me.”

Startled, I stared as she continued, “I can’t go on. I’m no good to anyone. It’s like I’m already dead.”

My friend Jackie’s eyebrows shot into her hairline and she looked to me as if to say, “Yikes! What do we do?”

I studied the woman before me. Her eyes were dull and her face hard. She was in incredible emotional pain. “What’s happened to you, Barb?” I asked softly.

Barb frowned, then in one long breath she said, “My husband died last year of a heart attack. I hate my job. I was left to raise my granddaughters and I’m doing a terrible job. My son-in-law committed suicide and I think he had the right idea. I’ve decided I should kill myself too.”

I asked, “Who are you mad at?”

Her blue eyes locked with mine. With a trembling voice she answered, “I loathe myself and I’m mad at God.”

I nodded slowly, comprehending her fury and replied, “That’s okay. God’s big enough to handle your anger. Do you want to let go of it? Do you want to give God your anger?”

She nodded her head and together we knelt on the carpet. There on the hotel conference room floor, with conference attendees milling around us and Jackie looking on, Barb let go. She not only gave God her anger, she also gave Him her burdens, hurts, and disappointments with a simple prayer, “I give it all to you Lord, the anger, the burdens, everything.”

When we finished, Jackie and I witnessed an amazing transformation. Color returned to Barb’s cheeks. Her eyes glistened. The hardness in her face evaporated as if she’d received an instant facelift. It was a stunning moment as we witnessed Barb’s return from the dead.

Barb and I stood up and hugged. I said, “Barb, this is what it feels like to be free.”

Barb jumped and clapped her hands. “Oh, I didn’t know this could happen. I am free. I’m free. I’m free!”

If you are finding yourself in the same situation as this woman, why not pray a prayer of your own.

Dear Lord,

I’m so angry about my job situation, and all the people who have contributed to my difficulties, including my boss, my co-workers, me and even You!  But I’m willing to give you my anger, to lay it at your feet, and to say to you, I give my anger over my job to you, Lord, it’s now your problem.  Help turn this situation around into a miracle.

In Jesus’s name,

Amen.

 Speaking of miracles, Zig Ziglar, who passed a few days ago , was a man who spent his 86 years living life with zest as he helped others find their purpose.  Watch him tell about a woman he met who also hated her job, and how he helped her turn her situation around.  His solution is brilliant and I think it might also work for you.

Bullying Prevention Tips for Parents and Kids

By Linda Evans Shepherd:

For National Bullying Prevention Month we asked author Shannon Perry (with Master’s degree in education and counseling) some tough questions about bullying.

 

Image: David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

What do we need to teach our kids about bullying? What should a child do if they become a bully’s target or witness an act of bullying? And what do you do if you find out if it’s your child who is bullying others?

Shannon Perry offers some good bullying prevention tactics:

Linda:  Shannon, I’m glad, as you are a certified instructor in crisis counseling, that you’ve taken the time to talk with me about bullying.  Can you describe to me what the act of bullying actually is?

Shannon:  Bullying is a form of behavior used to negatively affect others where there is an “imbalance of power.” This “imbalance” may be perceived social or physical power and may be based on the grounds of race, gender, sexuality, religion or other perceived positions. Bullies like to dominate others and are very “self” focused. While some bullies believe they have the right to treat others as they choose, many bullies are simply insecure. Some bullies are victims of bullying themselves and others suffer from mental disorders and need psychiatric attention.

Linda:  As responsible adults, what can we do to help prevent bullying?

Shannon:  Teachers and parents have the responsibility to teach children how to recognize bullying and employ tactics to deal effectively with it. There are many steps that parents or educators can take as preventative measures for bullying:

  • Teach zero tolerance for any type of bullying behavior.
    • Show positive examples of acceptance of others via family time, the newspaper, magazines, tv, etc.
    • Discuss appropriate ways to handle/display anger.
    • Teach words of reconciliation and empathy such as “I’m sorry, please forgive me.”
    • Discuss movie scenes that involve bullying. As a family, discuss the appropriate behavior that should have taken place in bullying situations.

Linda:  If a child is being bullied by his peers, what steps can he take to stop the bullying?

Shannon:  Here are some practical things to do when confronted by a bully:

  • Hold your head up and look confident. Refrain from having a hurt or fearful look on your face.
  • Keep your arms to your side and stand confidently on both feet. Keep your hands out of your pockets; not folded or held up as if you want to fight.
  • Keep non-threatening eye contact with the bully.
  • Don’t run away unless you are in danger.
  • Don’t get physical with the bully or argue in return.
  • Do something that brings you confidence in your everyday life by developing a skill you are good at or taking a class.
  • Find good, true friends and share your pain with them once they can be trusted.
  • Tell trusted adults that you are being bullied. Talk to someone UNTIL YOU GET HELP! If the first adult does not take you seriously, keep going to adults until someone believes you and does something to help you.

Linda:  If a child realizes that his behavior toward others is bullying, how can they change their behavior?

Shannon:  Behavior modification starts at home with the parents. If you find out that your child is being a bully, stay calm and meet with the adults who have witnessed the behavior. Apply clear and significant consequences and require (and witness) your child to apologize to any he/she has offended. If necessary, “shadow” your child at school for a day. Go everywhere he/she goes and monitor behavior. Immediately reinforce positive behavior when your child does good and immediately seek professional help if the bullying behavior continues for an extended period of time.

Linda:  If a child’s peers are bullying a classmate, what is the best way for a student to stand up for the classmate without being bullied himself?

Shannon:  If you are a by-stander and see someone being bullied, you can also use the strategies listed above.  But, for example, if someone is being bullied about his hair, you can say something like, “I think his hair cut looks like Justin Bieber, and I wish my hair looked like his!”

Next, ask the victim to walk away with you.

Some counter-bullying tactics include getting a third party involved. For example, the victim may wish to confront the bully who has been spreading rumors about her. To do so, it would be wise to discuss this action with an adult then have others present when the interaction takes place.

 More About Shannon Perry  – Shannon is an author, recording artist, conference speaker and radio host who often tackles issues such as bullying. Her brand-new conference, “In Her Shoes,” is designed specifically for mothers and daughters, tackling issues such as bullying, self-esteem, body image, social media, dating as well as other topics affecting tween and teen girls. Shannon holds a Master’s Degree in Education and Counseling and is a Certified Instructor in Parenting Classes and Crisis Counseling. For more information visit www.ShannonPerry.com.

How to Survive Heartbreak: 7 Steps

How do you heal a broken heart?  You can survive after a breakup.

 

A break up with someone you love is painful, but need not be fatal. It is possible to survive heartbreak.

For starters, it’s your choice to survive. You also can choose to either stay in your grief or take steps to move on, even if you can only take baby steps at first.

If you wonder how to go on living despite your pain, try following these steps. See also the helpful video below.

7 steps to help you live after heartbreak:

1. Know that grief is a process. Dr. Phil says on DrPhil.com:

“Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.”

2. Do not worry about trying to be a friend to your ex; at least, not right now. Try to accept that the relationship is over. When you can do this, you will be better able to move on.
3. Stop the self-blame. Be a better friend to yourself! After all, if you were honest, you would have to admit that there are lots of reasons why this relationship ended. So stop pointing the finger at yourself and accept that God has a new direction for you.
4.  Express your feelings to those closest to you. But at some point, choose to forgive your ex’s offenses so you can move toward healing your emotional pain.
5. Don’t harass your ex with things like hang-ups or drive-bys.  Such behavior will continue to pull you into the pain game when you need to push past it.
6.  Learn to trust and love again. You can, with time and God’s grace. Don’t let this experience keep you from finding the love of your life.
7. Pray this healing prayer:

God, I give my pain, grief, bitterness, as well as the offense I am carrying against my ex to you. I do this, not because __________ deserves to be free of the pain of our break-up, but because I do. I choose to forgive and to let go, not through my power, but through your power. I ask for you to break any ungodly soul ties between my ex and I also ask that you heal my broken heart. I tell the spirit of grief to go, and I replace that grief with God’s peace that passes understanding.

Lord, give me clarity, peace, truth, and a fresh start.

In Jesus’s name,

Amen

Fresh from YouTube, here are more steps to survive heartbreak.

Parent Suicide: 4 Ways to Cope (Mom or Dad Suicide)

 These 4 things may help you cope with the shock from parent suicide, if you’ve lost a mom or dad to this terrible tragedy:

 

Losing a parent is always a terrible loss. But death from a parent suicide means sons or daughters must also deal with anger, horror, and shame regarding the way their parent died.

When enduring such a loss, it’s important for the child, or even the adult-child left behind, to work through their own pain and grief.  So besides talking about your feelings regarding your loss, here are 4 things you can do to help work through the shock of losing a parent to suicide.

 1. Forgive yourself.

First of all, know that no matter how you feel, your parent’s suicide is not your fault.  Perhaps you missed a clue, or you were absent, or you weren’t tuned in, or didn’t try hard enough to cheer your parent, or perhaps you even quarreled.  None of these, or other things, make your parent’s suicide your fault.  Your parent is responsible for his or her own actions, not you.

If you are dealing with false-guilt, or even if you are dealing with earned guilt, you need to forgive yourself.  This may be something you can only do through God’s power.  Try praying this simple prayer:

God, I give the guilt I feel, false or real, concerning my parent’s suicide to you. I ask that you supernaturally remove it from my shoulders and place this guilt on the shoulders of Jesus.  I do this because Jesus wants to carry my guilt for me so that I can be free.  Give me the strength, your strength, to let go of these feelings of guilt.

In your power Lord, I choose to forgive myself.  I choose to let go.  I choose to be free.  Lord, I trade my guilt for the peace that passes understanding.

In Jesus’s name,

Amen

2. Forgive the person who died.

Of course you have feelings of anger because of what happened.  Your loved one murdered themselves.  And though you will always wish this had never happened, and even though you will always miss your loved one, and even though you will never approve of what they did, you can still forgive them as part of your own healing journey.

Pray this:

God, what my parent did was not in their (or anyone’s) best interest.  I feel angry and hurt that they would leave me in such a way.  And though I may never understand or ever condone their final act, I am asking you for your strength to help me forgive them because I do choose to forgive them.  And as I forgive them, I ask that you forgive them too.

In Jesus’s name,

Amen

3. Forgive God.

Sometimes it’s hard to forgive God when your loved one, especially your parent, takes their own life.  After all, wasn’t God powerful enough to stop them from such an act?

The answer to this question is yes.  But even so, God is a gentleman.  He never overpowers us, but waits for us to call upon his name when we need his help. Perhaps your parent didn’t understand or wait on God in their depression or trauma, but  — you can. You have the power to keep from repeating the mistake your parent made by turning to God, by calling on his name for help, comfort and for peace.  One of the best ways to make peace with God is to forgive him for not preventing their death.

Pray this:

God, I know you are not the one who inspired my parent to take their life, but my feelings are hurt, my anger is stirred, because you did not stop it. So, in an effort to reconcile with you, I give you my anger at you and I choose to forgive you.  I am letting go of any offense I have against you because of this tragedy.  Give me the power to forgive you, to let go, and to choose your peace and comfort.  I call upon you Lord, to help me through this difficult time.

In Jesus’s name,

Amen

4. Pray against Trauma and Grief

The trauma you are feeling is real.  But you can even give your trauma and grief to God and calm the torment.  Pray this:

God, I give you all the trauma I am feeling and I ask that you remove it from me. In addition, I tell the enemy who would use this trauma and grief to keep me bound in depression, to go. Also, I cancel the spirit of trauma and grief off of my life because through God’s power, I choose not give in to it. I choose to not allow trauma and grief to write the script of my life. So, in it’s place, I call upon the peace, love, grace, and the mercy of God.  Through the power of God, my life will be a positive journey of hope.

Thank you Lord for setting me free.

In Jesus’ Name,

Amen.

You may find it helpful to print out these prayers and to pray them daily or as often as you need to so to continue your healing.

Know we are praying with you!

Perhaps you would find strength by this story behind the loved song, “It is Well with my Song,” as told by Bill Gaither. The story is followed by the song itself by Guy Penrod and David Phelps.

Suicide bereavement support groups can also be helpful. To find a group in your area, you can click HERE to a directory  posted by the AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention).

Also for help in finding a Christian counseling therapist, you can visit the Meier Clinics website.

Reasons to Live

 

Imagine a person sitting at their computer, typing in the phase ‘reasons to live’ because they’ve personally run out of ideas on how to do that.

But maybe this person isn’t so hard to imagine, because maybe you’ve just landed on this page to see if there’s perhaps even one good reason to continue your life. If that’s the case, I have great news: I’ve listed three great reasons to live below.

  1. God really does love you. (Bear with me on this one and keep reading… please?)
  2. You really can trust God.
  3. If you were to die today, then you would never get the chance to understand reasons 1 and 2.  Plus, you would never get the opportunity to see how God is going to help you through this in such a way that you can look back on your life and be glad you didn’t give up.

As for me, I know this is true because I’ve been where you are. Imagine twenty-one health care professionals surrounding you, telling you that your baby, who has been in a horrendous car accident, would never wake up and could live for eighty years as a vegetable.

That’s what happened to me. And one of the reasons I didn’t kill myself that very night is because I knew that God loved me. I knew I could trust God, and because if I were to die, then I would never get the chance to find out how God would move in our situation.

So I waited on God.

And I’m glad I did.  My baby is now 26 years old, and though she has disabilities, she has joy and purpose, even if it’s only to love and to be loved.  It’s in fact the same purpose that both you and I share– to love others and to let them love us.  (Sounds impossible, it’s not, but it may take some practice.  Give it some time!  ; )

But I’m here today to tell you that I trusted God and he got me through.

Don’t know God?   Try praying this prayer.

Dear Lord,

I want to know you so that the two of us can walk through this life together.  So, I am willing to follow these steps to know you; 1. First, I recognize that Jesus Christ died in my place, for my sins, so that I could wear his righteousness (not mine) and so that I can walk with you.  2.  I ask Jesus to come into my life and I choose to follow him. 3.  I giive you my whole life.

In Jesus Name.

To find out more about knowing God, go to: www.GodTest.com

Now that you’ve made your acquaintance (or reacquaintance) with God, pray this:

Dear God,

My life is not going the way I want.  But because I’ve put my trust in you, I choose to trust you with my very life.  In fact I give my life to you, and ask you to guide me through my difficulties.  In fact Lord, I’d like to ask you to turn my life into a miracle.  I know this may or may not happen overnight, but help me to trust you, step by step, to a life of peace and even happiness.  I choose to live and I choose to trust you.

In Jesus Name.

 

Now, give it some time and watch as God moves in your life.  If you want take our new believers Bible Study, click HERE.

 

By the way, in the twenty-plus years that have passed since that terrible day I almost took my life, I can tell you that I’m glad I lived.  God has comforted me, and given me even greater purpose in the writing of many books that have helped thousands of people, including When You Need a Miracle, and When You Don’t Know What to Pray.

My prayer for you is, that twenty years from now, you can look back at this time you will be oh, so glad that you choose to live and to trust God.

We are praying for you.

Watch this great YouTube clip about one teen’s list of  46 reasons why you should live.

Cyberbullied: Handling Mean Texts and Online Posts

It feels awful to be cyberbullied! What can you do when you receive or see cruel texts or wall posts?

 

Cyberbullying feels awful. Deal with it with the tips below. Remember, God loves you and can cancel the lies.

You shiver before you look at the text that beeped in, afraid it could be another assault of words.  You can’t believe the horrible things people posted about you on your social media page.  You’re shattered because something you texted in private, spread like wildfire at school, and though everyone is laughing, it is not a laughing matter.

This is a snapshot of cyberbullying.

The website, Momlogic said in a recent article on cyberbullying:

According to recent surveys, 90 percent of middle-school students have had their feelings hurt by something posted online. One hundred and sixty thousand kids miss school each day because of it. But despite these statistics, only 15 percent of parents polled have even heard of cyberbullying.

According to the nonprofit group Make a Difference for Kids, 43 percent of teenagers have experienced online torment. Girls are twice as likely as boys to be victims and perpetrators, using e-mail or social-networking sites to engage in social sabotage. Bullying used to happen only in school or on the bus; in this high-tech era, cyberspace is the brazen bully’s new frontier. Read more of this article, click HERE.

If you are being bullied:

 

  1. Never ever respond, no matter how tempting. It only invites more insults.
  2. Don’t delete the bullying evidence, as  you may need to prove it really happened. Do hide it on your social medial —  so others can’t see it or add to it.
  3. Block the bully, and report the comments as spam or ‘abuse’ to your social media provider.  For instructions on how to block, click HERE.
  4. Tell an adult, your parents, a counselor, or a teacher. Don’t carry this alone.  If you are being threatened, tell the police.  For other ideas on ways to tell, click HERE.
  5. Ask God for help and protection.  Pray prayers like, “I am loved by God and I ask Him to protect me.  I also cancel the enemy’s assignment of bullying off of me  as well as the enemy’s assignment of lies being told about me, in the power and authority of the name of and the blood of Jesus. Though the power of Jesus, evil lies do not stick to me.  I cannot and will not believe them.”
  6. Do not retaliate by bullying someone else; that only spreads the virus.
  7. If you see a name or number of someone who is harassing you, do not open it. Either delete it, or save the message for an adult to read. Do ‘hide’ it from being viewed by others. Insults can inspire more insults.

Staying safe

 

Kids Help Phone also shares some following ways to protect yourself from being cyberbullied.  But be sure to watch the video below to understand why these rules are so important.

  • Keep your passwords private, even from your friends.
  • Don’t make it easy for strangers to track you down. Keep your personal information to yourself. Personal information includes your name, the names of friends or family, your address, phone number, and the name of your school.
  • Don’t accept friend invites from strangers.
  • Be careful about who you share your photos with online.
  • Remove tags on photos that make you feel uncomfortable.
  • Create a fake email account, and use it when asked to submit it to websites you don’t trust.
  • Secure your profile information by making sure that only friends can see it.
  • Trust your gut. If you don’t recognize the name of a sender, don’t open or answer the message.
  • Kids Help phone suggest that if you are too upset to do anything, just turn off your phone or computer and take a deep breath. Then you can:
    1. Call Kids Help Phone: 1-800-668-6868
    2. Do some breathing exercises
    3. Call a friend to talk about what happened
    4. Do something that will calm you down, like taking a walk, watching music videos, or reading a book
    5. I would like to add that you can also continue to pray the prayer you learned above.

To email questions or comments to Kids Help Phone, click HERE, but know that it might take a couple of days to get an answer.

Watch this video below to help understand why its important to follow the rules above:

 

7 Steps to Help Fight Depression

 

Author Stephen Ilardi says in his book, The Depression Cure, “The rate of depression among Americans is roughly ten times higher today than it was just two generations ago.”

So what can those of us who live in the today’s world do to beat the blues?

Ilardi believes there are six steps to fight depression, and though we like his ideas, we believe he left out an important step which we’ll include at the end of our article.

 

7 Steps to Help Fight Depression:

 

1. Take Omega-3 Fatty Acids to help the brain function properly.  People low in omega-3’s are more subject to mental illness and depression.

2. Engage in Activity – Or in other words, stay busy.  Working on projects will help people from ‘ruminating’ over their troubles, which can contribute to depression.

3. Participate in Physical Exercise – Ilardi states in his book, “Researchers have compared aerobic exercise and Zoloft head to head in the treatment of depression. Even at a low “dose” of exercise–thirty minutes of brisk walking three times a week–patients who worked out did just as well as those who took the medication. Strikingly, though, the patients on Zoloft were about three times more likely than exercisers to become depressed again over a ten-month follow-up period.”

4. Get Sunlight Exposure – Without sunlight exposure, your body can get out of sync, which can cause your circadian rhythms, energy, sleep, appetite and hormone levels to be disrupted, which can trigger clinical depression.

5. Develop Social Support – When it comes to depression, Ilardi says, “relationships matter.”

He goes on to say, “People who lack a supportive social network face an increased risk of becoming depressed, and of remaining depressed once an episode strikes. Fortunately, we can do a great deal to improve the quality and depth of our connections with other and this can have a huge payoff in terms of fighting depression and reducing the risk of recurrence.”

6. Sleep – Disrupted sleep is one of the most potent triggers of depression so be sure to try to catch your daily z’s.

Now for the suggestion to fight depression that Ilardi missed:

 

7.  Reach out to God – Studies have shown that developing a relationship with God can help relieve depression.

Perhaps you’re angry, even disgusted with what you believe God has allowed into your life.  If this is the case, you will feel better if you make amends with God, consider asking him to help you through your difficulty instead of trying to handle it alone.

Also, if you’ve never known God, click HERE to take our God test.

If you’ve never given your troubles to God, try praying…

Dear God,

These troubles are too much for me, so I give them to you. Now they are your problems.  Give me your supernatural power to let go and to trust that you will not only get me through this, but that you will give me and my loved ones a future and a hope.

In Jesus name,

Amen.

Watch Dr. David Thomas’s suggestions about how to control depression below: