God’s Love Thwarts a Suicide Attempt

Instead of a suicide attempt, seek and find God’s love and new life — as this one young woman did.

 

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Image: anekoho / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

 

A group of lively young women—none of them over twenty years of age––sat at attention in a chapel service, ready to talk about their past and how God had rescued them from a life of ruin before they died by suicide or from an overdose of meth or heroine.

As a woman old enough to be their grandmother, I was shocked at what I heard.

“I started drinking and drugging when I was ten,” said one. “And I continued for seven years. I’m nineteen now and have been clean and sober for two years thanks to the love and guidance of Jesus Christ, my Lord and Savior.”

She went on to say that just three years prior to that evening, she had attempted to take her own life by overdosing and drinking. She had passed out and nearly died.

I suddenly felt sick to my stomach imagining a beautiful young woman with practically her whole life ahead of her even thinking about suicide. But she had. Now, however, she referred to herself as “a new creation in Christ.” She went on to share how God had shown up in her life through a Bible study she attended at the invitation of a friend who saw how much trouble she was in.

Psalm 23:1-4 The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.  He makes me lie down in green pastures. He leads me beside still waters.  He restores my soul.  He leads me in paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.  Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

Psalm 121:7-8   The LORD will keep you from all evil; he will keep your life. 8 The LORD will keep your going out and your coming in from this time forth and forevermore.

These and other Bible verses spoke to her in a way that no human being ever could. If God’s Word in the Bible could call out to this young woman who had been in bondage for a decade, he can do the same for you.

Take a look at this incredible YouTube video, “God’s Love Letter” based on Scripture from the Bible. It is not only inspiring–but also true.

Between a Rock and a Hard Place

By Liz Cowen Furman:

Sometimes the rough road we are traveling  leaves us feeling as if we are stuck between a rock and a hard place.

Some even wonder if it’s worth the journey and consider suicide in their efforts to find relief.

 

Image of a rock used at ThinkingAboutSuicide.com

 

Many a person has called out to God with anguished questions like:

Does my life matter?

Do You care about me?

Can You hear me?

What is the point?

Do I have a purpose for being here?

Is there a plan somewhere in this mess?

Why hasn’t God healed me?

Or restored my marriage?

How am I going to get through this?

Will I die alone?

Are you up there?

A rock and a hard place all right. If any of these questions sound like you, or you have another, let me share some great news.

If the rock you are stuck between happens to be the Rock of Ages, Jesus, you are safe. He has promised us to be with us no matter what. (See Joshua 1:5)  That means no matter what we have done, or what has been done to us, He will stick by us. All we need to do is ask Him.

In this world, you will have trouble. John 16:33

Jesus’ own words to us, but read on He continues.

But take heart! I have overcome the world.

So, when rotten stuff happens to us, instead of stomping our feet and saying Why me! Why now? I’m going to commit suicide. If we remember that bad things happen to everyone. No exceptions. Then we won’t feel so singled out and tortured.

Instead of thinking of ending it all and quitting, why not lift our eyes to the Rock? Why not pour out our pain at His feet and allow Him to work on our behalf? Why not ask Him to take the reins, and the weight off our shoulders?

We can give our burdens to Him and then hang on for dear life to The Rock?

If you are ready for some help from the One who can actually give it, here is a simple prayer you can pray to ask Jesus to take over and give you peace.

Jesus, I believe that You are God. I believe that you are all powerful. I know I have messed up and sinned against You. I am sorry. I want to give You control of my life and let You lead from now on. Thank You for loving me and saving me. Amen

If you prayed this prayer today (or ever) then relax. He’s got this one. You and I will still have burdens this side of heaven, only now we don’t have to carry them alone. We can lift our eyes to the One who will help.

Now, go for a walk to get some fresh air. Then watch Fernando Ortega sing this great old hymn to remind us both that being between a rock and a hard place isn’t a bad thing if that rock is The ROCK. Jesus Christ.

How Do I Commit Suicide if There is Hope?

By Liz Cowen Furman:

Why bother anymore? Why live? What is the purpose of life anyway? There is no other way out. If you are thinking thoughts like these; if at this moment all hope has faded, all reason for staying on the planet has seemed to vanish and you are asking yourself; ‘How do I commit suicide?’ Please read on.

I found a place to go where hope still lives; a place where life has purpose, a place where you are loved for who you are, not what you may have done or not done. I know about this place because I was where you are at one point in my life. I had lost all hope. I felt as though I was a failure; like I had no reason for being on planet earth. Like life was too hard. I wanted to quit. I was asking myself, ‘How do I commit suicide?’

Then I met my best friend, He has seen me through so many scrapes and lifted me up. He has assured me that my life has meaning. That He has a purpose for me to be here, even a purpose for the difficult things I have had to face.

At first it sounded too good to be true. But, after I spent some time getting to know Him I realized He is for real. He loves me more than anyone in my life ever has. He even knows ALL my faults, all the ways I have failed, all the terrible things I have done. He believes in me and gives me advice and help to do the best thing for my life. I would never go back to doing life alone. Back to that place where I am constantly judged and found lacking.

Let me introduce you to my most ardent supporter, my most trusted comrade. The finest listener, the greatest confidant, the ultimate “I’ve got your back” Man. He is the best friend a person could have because He has the power to do anything He wants. In fact, He is the most powerful force that exists.

His name is Jesus and He loves you as much as He loves me. He loves us so much that He even died for us. Have you ever heard this saying?

 Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

That saying came from the Bible, in John 15:13, and it was talking about what Jesus did for you and for me.

I’m not saying that if you meet my friend you will never have problems again. Or that the ones you are currently facing will vanish in a second. What I am saying, and can say because it happened to me, is that if you meet Jesus and give Him the reins of your life, you will never again have to face a problem alone. If fact you will never be alone ever again. You will always have someone in your corner. If you pray the prayer that never fails, it will not fail.

The way I spent time getting to know Him was reading the book He inspired a few folks to write about His life. Please do read it. Give my friend a chance to bring you up from the grave, like He did me, then get yourself a Bible and start reading in the Book of John.

Read all the way to the end of Revelation. At the end, ask yourself : would you like to have a friend like Him? Have someone to share your burdens; someone to call friend, who will never leave or forsake you? (See Joshua 1:5)

If the answer to those questions is yes then, respond to this post. I will give you the words I said to my best friend that changed everything for me for all eternity. Because of what He has done in my life I can say,

Don’t give up and don’t quit ever!

What do you have to lose?

And know too that I have already prayed for you to find the hope I found in Jesus.

Check out this song that makes me laugh every time I hear it. I just wonder if the artist, Rodney Atkins, has had a similar experience with my Jesus.

Help, I am Having Suicidal Thoughts

 

If you’ve ever typed into an Internet search engine, or cried out in prayer, “Help, I am having suicidal thoughts,” you’re not alone. According to an article by Ankur Saraiya, MD on Howcast, “Suicide is not necessarily an abnormal thought. It’s not necessarily a sign of major illness. In some ways it’s perfectly natural for people to have thoughts that life is too overwhelming when something very bad has just happened.”

But what do you do about it?

  1. Don’t act on your thoughts.
  2. If you need help, get help.  Call a suicide hotline. If you need to talk to someone right now;  otherwise, make an appointment with your doctor for a checkup and while there, talk to her about your feelings.
  3. Pray! Talking to God can really help.  Below is a prayer to help get you started:

Dear Lord,

I’ll admit that I feel betrayed by my circumstances and feelings of despair, and I have to wonder if you love me so much, why aren’t you taking better care of me, fixing my pain, or changing my situation?  I confess these thoughts of anger and confusion to you. In fact, I give my anger and confusion as well as my problems to you. I know you love me and I also know you have a bigger perspective of my life than I do.  I even know that you can turn anything into a miracle.  So, though I feel angry, sad, and confused, I want to say to  you:

My problems are now your problems.  I give them to you and ask that you turn my problems into miracles.  I ask that you calm my broken heart and carry my pain.  I ask that you forgive me of my sins, through your son Jesus’ sacrifice for my sins on the cross.  I give my whole self to you.  In fact Lord, now I am your problem too.  And in that, I invite your presence to walk with me through this storm.  I will turn my focus from the wind and the waves,to your unfailing love and kindness.  I say, I will trust you and live.

In Jesus’ name,

Amen

To find more answers to your questions about God, take our Godtest.  Also, watch this helpful video produced by Howcast as posted on Youtube with Dr. Ankur Saraiya for more ideas on how to get help, especially if you are having suicidal thoughts.

You might also be interested in PeggySu Wells’ story about Help When Thoughts of Suicide Filled My Mind.

Suicidal? Need Help Now? Call 911 or 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433) or

1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255) or

Text Telephone: 1-800-799-4TTY (1-800-799-4889)

Military Veterans Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-TALK (Press 1)

Suicide Hotline in Spanish: 1-800-273-TALK (Press 2)

LGBT Youth Suicide Hotline: 1-866-4-U-TREVOR

 

Why Do I Suffer?

By Deborah Lovett :

 Then they returned to Lystra, Iconium and Antioch, 22 strengthening the disciples and encouraging them to remain true to the faith. “We must go through many hardships to enter the kingdom of God,” they said. (Acts 14:22, NIV Bible)

 

If you are thinking about suicide today, wondering”Why do I suffer so much?”  I welcome you to think differently with me.

I believe God allows certain things in our lives so that we can share in the revelations of His love and suffering that we receive through our own hardships. Many times we only want to share in the ‘good’ things He allows into our lives, and don’t understand the other things He allows.

Many times people help feed fear, guilt and shame that may come from suffering. Granted, some suffering is a result of our own choices, some the choices of others: but some is neither.

Let me share a few of the insights God has been showing me:

  • He is the Redeemer of Suffering. He redeemed Jesus’ suffering and He will redeem ours, in His time. It is not called the “Death, Burial and Resurrection” for nothing!
  • The bigger the suffering, the bigger the plan, the bigger His glory and grace will be showcased!
  • God’s mission for us includes seeing things from an eternal perspective, and being available to Him. Therein lies our joy.
  • Many trials bring spiritual maturity–if we are listening.
  • There is a method to His madness!  It is spelled: LOVE.

Then as I sat there listening to Him intently; He asked me a question I didn’t want to hear, for I was asking just the opposite:

I was asking Him: “When do the trials end?”

He was asking me: “Even if the trials never end, will you trust Me?”

Remember not to live in your pain, as much as you do in the plan that God sets before you in that pain. Try to set aside your circumstances from your spirituality for a moment and find the purpose. It is equally important to remember that all of our suffering is not the result of some sin or failure. Job suffered because he was a righteous man. He was chosen to suffer, much like Jesus was the Chosen One.

Are you going through many trials? James 1:2 tells us:

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance.”

How can you rejoice, you might ask? Well, if you are going through hardships “in Him” the book of John tells us we will bear much fruit. But apart from Him, we can do nothing. (15:4,5) So we can rejoice in Him, and the fruit that is waiting.

The enemy is on full force attack. But God promises in Deuteronomy 1:30 “The Lord your God who is going before you, will fight for you…before your very eyes and in the desert.” The next time you cry out, “Why do I suffer!”, choose to trust the Lord, and His purposes for you. Hang on to your hope and trust, God knows your hearts and will prove Himself faithful.

Finding Hope When You Think “I Want to End My Life”

By Janet Perez Eckles:

When someone says, “I want to end my life,” how do you help her?

 

I swallowed hard. Her despair was evident. The sudden death of her son had been all over the news. And the fact she reached out to me put me on my knees for wisdom.

“How do you live,” she paused, then exhaled a long breath. “I mean, how do you go on with life after this pain?”

Her distress was so familiar to me. I had lost my own son just months prior. The perpetrator who had murdered my son was set free. At first, sorrow and rage had threatened to consume me.

I met with her to offer what help I could, and hugged her. “I know. I know your heartache.” I said. Gulping the lump in my throat, I handed her a tissue. “The only one who helped me was Jesus. In fact, He’s the only one who helps me now. . . moment by moment.”

“Don’t know,” she said between sobs. “Sometimes I want to end my life, but don’t know how.”

I suppressed a gasp. Ending her life would begin a life of sorrow and anguish for her other children, her family and loved ones. Her grief had blinded her from seeing the purpose, the value and treasure she was in God’s eyes.

Since I had seen first-hand the other side of heartache, I knew thoughts like “I want to end my life” were never the answer. In fact, nothing seems to be the answer, to be enough or sufficient. But God says in the Bible, when we’re weak with pain:

My grace is sufficient for you…” 2 Corinthians 12:9.

“Think of your other children,” I said. I detailed my journey of how I believed In God’s promise. To let go. To release that pain and anguish directly to Him.

I assured her that God understands when we’re angry, when we’re mad at Him, even when we question His Word. Still, He’s still faithful. He’s still loving and He’s still powerful enough to heal that heartache.  And if you exchange your thoughts of I want to end my life” for “I want to begin with Jesus,” it will open the door to a new start, a new perspective, and a desire to receive the peace only He can give.

Here’s a video which I hope offers you additional encouragement:

 

Thinking About Suicide? You are Loved

By Deborah Lovett:

Joyce Meyers refers to it as Stinkin’ thinkin’. That is when you are thinking about suicide that steals the joy not only from yourself, but from those who love you.

Don’t listen to the lies of the enemy of your own soul saying you are ruined and unloved, and other various things that stand to destroy your life. Satan is a bluffer, and he does not get the last word!

That kind of thinking can eventually lead to suicide if it gets worse and is not stopped. Ask God to help you reverse your thought process by showing you some things you can be thankful for.  Turn on some praise music in order to start the reversal process right now.

If you can find a Bible you can find God. If you can find a phone and call the suicide hotline, you can find someone who wants to talk to you about your problems, which could be God’s intervention.

You see, in May 2008 my sister took her own life because she forgot she was loved by so many. She replayed the video of the lies of the enemy that reminded her she had lost everything: her children, her husband, her home, her job, and her reputation over and over.

That kind of stinkin’ thinkin’ can make you crazy. She had no idea of the aftershocks that would occur after she died. If she could have known how much we were to suffer because of losing her, I know she would never have wanted to hurt us that much. It has been like a tsunami whose waves of grief never end.

I don’t know why my sister made the horrible decision to give up, but I do know that God tried to get to her to stay by sending someone that offered to take her to church the same day. The lady said, “I knocked and she never answered.” My sister chose not to answer the door. There is always a choice.

If you are thinking about trying to take your own life, remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem that the devil wants you to believe is a permanent problem with no solution, which is actually a lie from the pit of hell. Yes, you may have problems, but believe me my God is in the miracle making business and the worst situations are not even a challenge for Him.

Take Jesus for example; they spit on him, whipped him, crucified him, and it looked absolutely hopeless. Yet three days later God raised him from the dead.

I know, I know, you are thinking but that was JESUS. Well, listen up: God does not play favorites. If you will give God three days of life, (we have been commanded not to murder) just three sunrises, I believe He will intervene in your life someway, somehow. All you need to do is listen, submit to His voice, and open the door when He knocks or sends someone to your door. Not sure you are hearing him? Give him another three days. And another!

You can  choose to not replay the video of darkness in your head over and over. As hard as it is to believe, you can choose to restart your life and begin to think about how God wants to actually bless you. Not only does He want to bless you, He has blessings waiting on you! You can begin by saying the name of Jesus, because the Word of God says there is POWER in the name of Jesus.

So if you are thinking about suicide, find God instead. Life, blessing, and a new life will follow if you will only believe and have the faith the size of a mustard seed.

I don’t know you, but I want you to know you are not alone. God is with you and I love you even though I have never met you. I really do!

You see, love is not based on what you do or don’t do. It is based on the command to love your neighbors just as Jesus loved us.

I am begging you not to hurt those you love, or yourself. Let the sun come up another day. Reach out, call someone, open a Bible, go to church, call your doctor, go to the hospital, do anything BUT stinkin’ thinkin’. The devil has taken enough from you already, don’t give him the satisfaction of your life too. God wants you to live and He has a purpose and plan for it. Just believe.