By Martha Bolton:

Do you feel you are barely surviving?

Stop. Think for a moment about everything you’ve lived through, throughout your life. If you’re like the rest of the human race, you’ve no doubt survived your share of:

. . . bad decisions, failures, betrayal,  unfaithful friends, embarrassing moments, devastating moments, put downs, rejection, disappointment, loss, regrets,

. . . and more.

But the simple fact that you’re reading this right now means you’ve surviving!


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A lot of it hurt; perhaps a few almost did you in, but you survived. Some of the events taught you painful lessons, but you survived.  You learned who you can count on in life. And who you couldn’t. But you survived.

You may have gone down for the count a few times, but you still won because you got back up. You’re still here. You survived. Even if you’re not fully back up on your feet just yet, you’re in the process. You’re alive. You’re breathing.

Maybe you’re scarred just a bit. Perhaps a lot. But you’ve survived.

Our scars make those injured parts of us a little bit tougher. A little bit stronger. They make it more difficult for us to be injured in that exact same place the next time.

So embrace your scars. They’re proof the injury, or injuries, didn’t take you out. Even if a few of your wounds are still bleeding, stop and look at all the ones that have already healed. That should give you the assurance that this wound can heal, too.

Ask for help. Reach out to someone. There are resources listed on this site that are available 24-7. God is available 24-7 to comfort you and help you heal, too. You’ve already survived a lot. Now, you have a new wound that needs time and attention to heal, or an old one that needs a little more time to complete the healing process and to form its protective scar. Giving it that time makes sense, doesn’t it. Especially to a survivor like you.

Remind yourself that you are a survivor.  Not “could be one,” “might be one,” or “hope to be one.” You are one.

Don’t let anyone, including yourself, try to convince you that you’re not.

Disappointments in Life: Don’t Give Up!

By Deborah Lovett:


I always say disappointments are really God’s re-appointments. Today I have to remind myself of that. If you are contemplating suicide, please read on. I am finding God in the midst of disappointments and hope you can too.

Disappointments can lead to depression if wrong thinking is not nipped in the bud. I believe that depression can be an impression left from fear: the fear is that God really isn’t who He said He is. Or perhaps the fear is God didn’t say what I thought He said, or won’t do what He said. Thinking God didn’t come through for me is unbelief wrapped in fear.

Today we must make a plan, rather than analyzing, blaming and feeling sorry for ourselves. Start trusting and thanking. Turn our thinking upside down, because we know if we continue in our old thought patterns it will lead to a dead end. And you may miss out on some amazing re-appointments that God has already penciled into His calendar!

Consider these verses:

  • God does not show favoritism.  Romans 2:11 (All people do suffer at one time or another.)
  • With the Lord a day is like a thousand years. 2 Peter 3:8 (He has plenty of time to work in your life.)
  • “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 (He is working on your behalf.)
  • “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Exodus 14:14  (Rest and leave the results to God.)
  • …take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Ephesians 6:16 (Choose faith.)
  • The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy;  I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. John 10:10  (God always comes out on top~so we are more than conquerors.)
  • So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. 2 Cor. 4:18  (This disappointment is building important character in us that we need.)
  • Love never fails. 1 Cor. 13:8 (Bottom line: God loves you.)

Do you get the idea? God has a plan for you, he knows your future and he loves you!

Remember: if it feels as if He has failed you, God’s love may be protecting you from something or someone (or some place) that will not form you into His character, or that will hurt you not help you. He has promised in His Word to protect and provide.

Believe in faith that God really does have your back, no matter what it looks like with human eyes. (And if God hasn’t revealed that yet, wait patiently, He will, He is faithful.)

As you believe, God will illuminate your path until you reach your destination, which will surpass the disappointment every time. Keep turning those calendar pages, day by day, week by week, until you are no longer contemplating suicide in the midst of the disappointments. Don’t give in, don’t let up, and don’t quit.

Love always,