Ever contemplated, “My Family Would Be Better Off Without Me?”
We once got an email from a man who was thinking of committing suicide because he said, “My family would be better off without me.” If you’re thinking this too, you might be interested in our response:
Dear One,
If you take your life, you will destroy your children’s future. You are their parent and they need you now on so many more levels than you can imagine. If you were gone, through suicide, the chances that they would also at some point commit suicide is greater than 60 percent. They would think, “If this is how my parent coped, then this is how I should cope.” That means your death could literally kill your kids. Believe me, if you’re thinking about the insurance money your kids would get at your death, please understand that money isn’t everything. Besides, suicide nulls insurance policy payoffs.
So, please quit thinking about death. I know that I would rather have my mom or dad instead of a million dollars. I know your kids feel the same way.
If you give up on life, you give up on so many possibilities and on so many people who need you. It may not ‘seem’ like this is true, but it is.Think about this, if everything in ‘your worst case scenerio’ happened, God would have a plan that would enable things to turn around. But if you had already given up, if you were already gone, how would you ever discover God’s plan for you? The enemy is trying to whisper death to you. Don’t buy his lies. You’ve got a lot to live for. Whether you now realize it or not.
If you allow life to keep you, one day, you will look back at this time and see how far down the road you’ve come. You will look at pride at your kids and see how they made it without insurance funds (that wouldn’t be available to than anyway if you kill yourself.) You will see your children as young adults who have been spared the pain of your suicide. They will be better adjusted and they will live to face their problems successfully.
Life is not without problems, but God is with you. Even when it does not feel like it, God is with those with a broken heart. Quit looking at ‘what might happen’ and look up. Look up at a God who is smiling at you, who is saying, TRUST ME. I will get you through this difficult place. I have a plan for you. I’m going to take you someplace wonderful you couldn’t have guessed.
Wait. Wait on God. In the meantime, if thoughts of suicide get too heavy, go to the hospital or call 911. Call your doctor as well.
You are going to make it!
To see this letter in it’s entirety, click HERE. To see MORE letters, click HERE.
I’m happy to report that this man decided not to take his life, but decided he had a reason to live – namely his family.
Please understand, that it’s a common lie of the enemy (the devil) to get dads, as well as moms, to believe they should take their own lives “because their families would be better off without them.” NOT! If you have been tempted by this lie, please consider praying the following:
Dear Lord,
Open my eyes to truth. I break any lies of the enemy regarding the idea that my family would be better off without me, in the power and authority of the name of Jesus. I replace this lie with your love and your truth. Lord, show me that I am not worthless, and that you do have a plan for my life. Show me that my family needs me. Forgive me for almost falling into this suicide trap. But thank you for showing me that you love me enough to get me this message just in time. I choose life–though your power Lord — Save me! I choose life! Help me to be strong.
In Jesus Name
Amen
If you’d like to know more about how to know God, go to: www.GodTest.com. And, in case you need to see the answer to our question to My Family Would Be Better Off Without Me? The answer is, in black and white — NO, they need you. Please, do not leave them, especially by way of suicide.
Watch this music video about a little girl missing her dad:
To see more on this subject, please read the story of a sucidial man who did call on God. To find out what happened, click on: I Feel Worthless: A Suicidal Man Calls Upon God
Hi there. I lost first my father, then my brother to suicide. My brother’s death brought me to Christ, but my emotional pain was so deep that I almost followed their path. I too thought my children would be better off without a mentally ill mother. Thank GOD I did not end my life. Instead, I accepted that I was in pain then, but I would trust God to bring me out to the other side. He did that and so much more. I write about it in my blog, which is a memoir. I am now a psychotherapist in private practice, helping others with suicidal thoughts and self-harm behaviors. Thank you for the vital work you are doing.