How to Live Through Hump Day

By Linda Evans Shepherd

According to the Washington Post, “intriguing new research shows that Wednesday is the day of the week on which most suicides occur.”

But why is it so hard to know how to live through hump day?  Wouldn’t Monday be the most challenging day of the week?

Apparently not, as the Post says, “The study looked at data about suicides nationwide among people over age 18; that number totaled 131,636 over five years. Almost a quarter of those suicides happened on Wednesdays, while only about 14 percent took place on Mondays. The fewest — just over 11 percent — occurred on Thursdays.”

So what’s so difficult about Wednesdays?  Could it be as the study suggests, “perhaps life’s stresses build up by mid-week and seem most insurmountable on that day?”

But note what a difference a day makes! By Thursday, people who managed to live through Wednesday or least likely to take their own lives.  With that in mind, here are some suggestions on how to live through hump day.  Please note that these suggestions are geared for those who might implusively take their lives due to the mid-week blues or sudden circumstances that seem overwhelming.  None of the suggestions are meant to offend those with chronic depression.  If you are chronically depressed or if you need additional helps, please read the comments to this article which have some great critiques and suggestionsAlso, note that we have an ever growing catagory called ‘Depression‘ that you may want to check into.  Also, we welcome your continued suggestions on what might help people who are looking for solutions.

  1. When you feel stressed, depressed, or discouraged, before you do something impulsive like taking your own life, made a decision to wait; a day, a week, a month, a year.  It’s likely your feelings will change because Wednesdays don’t last forever, Thursday is on the way!
  2. If you are feeling overwhelmed, stop and count your blessings and if you can’t think of any, determine how you can be a blessing to others.
  3. Think about those things you have to look forward to.  And if you can’t think of anything, start dreaming.  Ask yourself questions like; if I could go anywhere in the world where would I go?  What is a skill I would like to learn? Then start planning your dream trip or researching how you can learn that skill.
  4. Are you still up?  Go to bed. Don’t sit up late and mope, it’s very likely you will feel better in the morning.  Otherwise, if you can’t sleep, read a book, watch a comedy, put on some soothing music.  But if it’s not yet bedtime, stand up, take a walk, get some fresh air, or call a friend.  Relax! Everything is going to be all right.
  5. Recite your problems to God, then tell him, “Now these things are your problems.”  Then relax.  He loves you and no matter what you are going through, you can trust him to see you through it.
  6. Call a suicide hotline.

If you know about the song ‘Friday,’ you might enjoy this silly parody called ‘Wednesday’.  Relax and enjoy.  It looks to me like you need a good laugh.

Don’t let tricky Wednesday pysch you out because now you have some some motivators that will show you how to live through hump day. 
P.S.  Don’t try any of those silly car tricks.  Stay safe.  You’ll be glad you did.
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Comments

  1. Judith Singer says:

    This writer has apparently never had a real suicidal depression and has no clue what it feels like. Suggestions 2 through 5 won’t help you at all if that’s the problem.
    No. 1 is ok. That thinking has saved my life at least once.
    No. 2: “If you are feeling overwhelmed, stop and count your blessings and if you can’t think of any, determine how you can be a blessing to others.” If you are feeling suicidally depressed, you can’t think of any blessings you have, and you are probably sick and tired of being a blessing to others – that may be part of the problem. You want someone to be a blessing to you.
    No. 3: “Think about those things you have to look forward to. And if you can’t think of anything, start dreaming.” This is useless advice. If you are truly suicidally depressed, there is nothing you look forward to. You can’t imagine ever enjoying anything again. There is nothing you can even dream about that you would look forward to – you’d think about a fantasy, then decide that you’ll never be able to realize the fantasy, and that’s even more depressing.
    No. 4: Most of this paragraph contains good suggestions for getting you through a bad but brief depression. They don’t work for longer-term problems – your friends are going to get tired of hearing from you at 2 a.m. every night. And “Relax! Everything is going to be all right.” Are you kidding? The problem is we believe it won’t ever be all right again.
    No. 5: Useless if your mind is at all logical. If God loves me, why is he putting me through hell on earth? He’s going to see me through it? I don’t want to get through it, I want to get out of it. God isn’t helping, why would I think he’s going to change and start helping me? He’s supposed to be omniscient and should already know all my problems, but in case he doesn’t, I’ve probably already told him even though I don’t believe he exists. So if he knows my problems, why isn’t he making my life better?
    No. 6: Calling a suicide hotline is a good idea.

    • Hi Judith,
      I loved your thoughtful response to my article, and am so glad that you found a couple of my ideas have been things that have helped you. And I do recoginize that with people in pain, one thing that might help someone, might not help someone else. And or course, I do understand that there are different kinds and levels of pain.

      Praying for all those reading this article and blog. Glad you are here.
      Love,
      Linda Evans Shepherd

      • I read your article “How to Live Through Hump Day” and I have to agree with Judith Singer’s comments. Your response to her critique was pleasant, but showed that you do not understand what she is trying to tell you. With the exception of the first and last suggestion, your suggestions are absolutely the last thing anyone should be telling a person who is suicidal. A person who is suicidal is beyond “counting their blessings, let alone try to be a blessing to others. They can no longer see hope for the future, and please understand that telling someone to dream about a trip or a skill they want to learn to feel better is NOT helpful. Expecting a suicidal person to do something like that is like expecting a zebra to fly-it’s just not possible.

        Perhaps the most painful part of this article for me was in the fourth point when you tell the suicidal person to relax, things are going to get better. Please realize that when a person reaches the point of becoming suicidal, they have usually been either trying to make things better or hoping that things will get better for some time. Telling someone considering suicide that they just need to relax and things will get better is insensitive to the point of being cruel.

        Please also understand that a Christian who has become suicidal has probably repeatedly prayed about the difficulties they are experiencing. They have probably struggled to trust God, but whatever difficulty they’re facing has worsened to the point that they are no longer emotionally able to trust God to help them. (I am not saying that God is not worthy of their trust, only that their pain, for whatever reason, has reached a point where they cannot believe that God is willing to help them.) They may also experience a lot of guilt and/or anger over this, which makes the emotional pain even worse. For the person who is not a believer, I thought Ms. Singer’s comments about God and prayer explained what they may experience quite well. Whether a believer or not, a suicidal individual needs professional help to work through this, not a “trust God and everything will be all right” message.

        Your suggestions may work quite well for a person experiencing a non-suicidal depression; however, they are highly inappropriate for a suicidal person. Please know that I am not attacking you personally. I believe your heart is in the right place, but you obviouslly have never experienced the emotional and/or physical pain that a suicidal person is experiencing. As a person who has been suicidal, I found this article to be extremely painful emotionally, and it frightens me to think what could happen if someone in a deep pit of suicidal depression read this . Please, please, take this post down until you seek out the advice of a professional who deals with suicide. They should be able to advise you on appropriate suggestions for those considering suicide.

        • Thinking About Suicide says:

          Thank you Deena for your comments. Because of your suggestions, I have added a blurb (in red) that this particular piece is meant more for the impulsively suicidal, not someone who has been chronically depressed. BTW, I was one who was implusively suicidal after my infant daughter spent 3 months in coma, and I almost took both of our lives. I know that there are others like me, who will live if we give them the kind of suggestions that appear in this article.

          However, if anyone reading this article feels as though their needs are not being addressed, please check out our other articles which might prove more helpful.

          God bless you, and we appreciate your comments and ideas greatly as may help others who do not relate to my suggesions.

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