By Linda W. Rooks:
When my marriage fell apart, I felt like an old shoe thrown in the trash, unwanted by the person who was supposed to love me the most. The man who chose me as his wife no longer wanted me.
Often I sat before the TV and saw sad stories of someone dying of cancer or someone who’d been killed in a car crash whose loved ones were in mourning. Why couldn’t that be me? I’d think. They want to live, and I want to die. They’re dying and I’m alive. It doesn’t seem fair. My marriage separation was just too painful.
And then I’d cry out, “God, why don’t you just let me die?”
I felt like part of the living dead. My depression was so deep and the pain was so real, I felt like I was being ripped in two.
A few weeks into our separation, the typically unassertive woman who cut my hair, heard my story and challenged me with great passion not to let my husband get the best of me. “Focus on God,” she said. “Think about what God wants you to do, and think about your kids and what’s best for them.”
After our conversation, her words rang in my ears for the next few days. As I focused on what she’d said, I experienced a supernatural peace. I felt somehow suspended above the circumstances of my marriage separation for a time. And I began to take steps to get beyond my depression.
I typed scriptures and hung them up around the house—on my mirror, on my refrigerator, on the walls—so that everywhere I looked, God’s Word could encourage me. I turned on my radio or TV and listened to Christian teachers as often as possible. Throughout the day I listened to praise songs to lift me up emotionally. I did everything I could to fill my mind with positive thoughts about God. These things helped me get through each day of my marriage separation until I finally began to experience God’s peace on a more regular basis.
My husband and I were separated for three years. After God did His work in our lives, we reconciled and got back together.
It was a painful time, but today we have a strong, happy marriage, and I’m so thankful God didn’t grant my desperate cry when I told him that because of my marriage separation, “I want to die”. Now I have experienced the truth of Psalm 30:5:
“Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.”
While the length of your anguish might not last for a literal night and day, your pain will come to an end in God’s timing when you place it in God’s hands and allow Him to work in your life.
I’m so thankful God didn’t grant my desperate cry when I told him I wanted to die in the midst of those difficult three years. If you are suffering through a marriage separation, I invite you to visit my website at brokenheartonhold.com. There you can find scriptures to download and suggested praise music to salve your spirit, along with many other helps.