By Dianne E. Butts:
Grief, Guilt and Asking for Help: Lesson 2 in 10 Things I’ve Learned About Grief. Includes Post-Abortion Grief.
As I write about lessons I’ve learned about grief, you may recall lesson #1: Grief Plus Exhaustion May Increase Suicidal Thoughts where I talked about how being tired is just one symptom of grief.
Lesson #2 is to recognize additional symptoms and know when to ask for help:
Some people may temporarily experience sleeplessness, nightmares, lack of appetite or greater appetite, fear, increased anxiety, or various other difficulties. These are “normal” for people working through grief, but if they continue or become overwhelming, ask for help.
It’s hard to ask for help. I’ve also learned even when we reach out for help, the help we find isn’t always helpful. If that has been your experience, I challenge you to try again. You are too important to let a mismatched counselor stop you.
In the article, Choosing a Christian Counselor at CBN.com, David Martin states: “In order for a Christian to make a good decision about a Christian counseling professional, there are some important factors that need to be understood as well as the various options that are available to you.” (Click through to that article for more good information.)
For help, CBN.com recommends these organizations that you can call right now:
New Life Ministries: 1-800-NEW-LIFE (1-800-639-5433)
Rapha National Network: 1-800-383-HOPE (1-800-383-4673)
There are various reasons feelings of guilt may be associated with the loss of someone. For many women and men, that relates to abortion.
Post-Abortion Grief and Guilt
In a guest post at Kathi Macias’ blog, I wrote about how it’s common for people with an abortion in their past to grieve and even think about suicide. (If this applies to you, click here to read more about that.) But women (and men) the world over need to know that God loves them, that He will forgive them, and that He is right there with them no matter what they have done or what they are facing right now.
At the Abortion Recovery Help webpage, the list of Symptoms of Post Abortion Syndrome includes depression and thoughts of suicide. Whether you are a woman or a man, pro-life pregnancy centers offer free, confidential programs to help you through after-abortion struggles. Find one closest to you here: www.OptionLine.org.
Even if this common cause for grief does not apply to you, feelings about the loss of a loved one can be complicated, and counseling frequently very helpful. If you are feeling overwhelmed, do ask for help, from a friend, any of the counseling resources previously mentioned, or:
CBN’s 700 Club Prayer Counseling Center at 1-800-759-0700
This video,You Are Loved (Don’t Give Up), may help: