How to Survive Heartbreak: 7 Steps

How do you heal a broken heart?  You can survive after a breakup.


A break up with someone you love is painful, but need not be fatal. It is possible to survive heartbreak.

For starters, it’s your choice to survive. You also can choose to either stay in your grief or take steps to move on, even if you can only take baby steps at first.

If you wonder how to go on living despite your pain, try following these steps. See also the helpful video below.

7 steps to help you live after heartbreak:

1. Know that grief is a process. Dr. Phil says on

“Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.”

2. Do not worry about trying to be a friend to your ex; at least, not right now. Try to accept that the relationship is over. When you can do this, you will be better able to move on.
3. Stop the self-blame. Be a better friend to yourself! After all, if you were honest, you would have to admit that there are lots of reasons why this relationship ended. So stop pointing the finger at yourself and accept that God has a new direction for you.
4.  Express your feelings to those closest to you. But at some point, choose to forgive your ex’s offenses so you can move toward healing your emotional pain.
5. Don’t harass your ex with things like hang-ups or drive-bys.  Such behavior will continue to pull you into the pain game when you need to push past it.
6.  Learn to trust and love again. You can, with time and God’s grace. Don’t let this experience keep you from finding the love of your life.
7. Pray this healing prayer:

God, I give my pain, grief, bitterness, as well as the offense I am carrying against my ex to you. I do this, not because __________ deserves to be free of the pain of our break-up, but because I do. I choose to forgive and to let go, not through my power, but through your power. I ask for you to break any ungodly soul ties between my ex and I also ask that you heal my broken heart. I tell the spirit of grief to go, and I replace that grief with God’s peace that passes understanding.

Lord, give me clarity, peace, truth, and a fresh start.

In Jesus’s name,


Fresh from YouTube, here are more steps to survive heartbreak.

Parent Suicide: 4 Ways to Cope (Mom or Dad Suicide)

 These 4 things may help you cope with the shock from parent suicide, if you’ve lost a mom or dad to this terrible tragedy:


Losing a parent is always a terrible loss. But death from a parent suicide means sons or daughters must also deal with anger, horror, and shame regarding the way their parent died.

When enduring such a loss, it’s important for the child, or even the adult-child left behind, to work through their own pain and grief.  So besides talking about your feelings regarding your loss, here are 4 things you can do to help work through the shock of losing a parent to suicide.

 1. Forgive yourself.

First of all, know that no matter how you feel, your parent’s suicide is not your fault.  Perhaps you missed a clue, or you were absent, or you weren’t tuned in, or didn’t try hard enough to cheer your parent, or perhaps you even quarreled.  None of these, or other things, make your parent’s suicide your fault.  Your parent is responsible for his or her own actions, not you.

If you are dealing with false-guilt, or even if you are dealing with earned guilt, you need to forgive yourself.  This may be something you can only do through God’s power.  Try praying this simple prayer:

God, I give the guilt I feel, false or real, concerning my parent’s suicide to you. I ask that you supernaturally remove it from my shoulders and place this guilt on the shoulders of Jesus.  I do this because Jesus wants to carry my guilt for me so that I can be free.  Give me the strength, your strength, to let go of these feelings of guilt.

In your power Lord, I choose to forgive myself.  I choose to let go.  I choose to be free.  Lord, I trade my guilt for the peace that passes understanding.

In Jesus’s name,


2. Forgive the person who died.

Of course you have feelings of anger because of what happened.  Your loved one murdered themselves.  And though you will always wish this had never happened, and even though you will always miss your loved one, and even though you will never approve of what they did, you can still forgive them as part of your own healing journey.

Pray this:

God, what my parent did was not in their (or anyone’s) best interest.  I feel angry and hurt that they would leave me in such a way.  And though I may never understand or ever condone their final act, I am asking you for your strength to help me forgive them because I do choose to forgive them.  And as I forgive them, I ask that you forgive them too.

In Jesus’s name,


3. Forgive God.

Sometimes it’s hard to forgive God when your loved one, especially your parent, takes their own life.  After all, wasn’t God powerful enough to stop them from such an act?

The answer to this question is yes.  But even so, God is a gentleman.  He never overpowers us, but waits for us to call upon his name when we need his help. Perhaps your parent didn’t understand or wait on God in their depression or trauma, but  — you can. You have the power to keep from repeating the mistake your parent made by turning to God, by calling on his name for help, comfort and for peace.  One of the best ways to make peace with God is to forgive him for not preventing their death.

Pray this:

God, I know you are not the one who inspired my parent to take their life, but my feelings are hurt, my anger is stirred, because you did not stop it. So, in an effort to reconcile with you, I give you my anger at you and I choose to forgive you.  I am letting go of any offense I have against you because of this tragedy.  Give me the power to forgive you, to let go, and to choose your peace and comfort.  I call upon you Lord, to help me through this difficult time.

In Jesus’s name,


4. Pray against Trauma and Grief

The trauma you are feeling is real.  But you can even give your trauma and grief to God and calm the torment.  Pray this:

God, I give you all the trauma I am feeling and I ask that you remove it from me. In addition, I tell the enemy who would use this trauma and grief to keep me bound in depression, to go. Also, I cancel the spirit of trauma and grief off of my life because through God’s power, I choose not give in to it. I choose to not allow trauma and grief to write the script of my life. So, in it’s place, I call upon the peace, love, grace, and the mercy of God.  Through the power of God, my life will be a positive journey of hope.

Thank you Lord for setting me free.

In Jesus’ Name,


You may find it helpful to print out these prayers and to pray them daily or as often as you need to so to continue your healing.

Know we are praying with you!

Perhaps you would find strength by this story behind the loved song, “It is Well with my Song,” as told by Bill Gaither. The story is followed by the song itself by Guy Penrod and David Phelps.

Suicide bereavement support groups can also be helpful. To find a group in your area, you can click HERE to a directory  posted by the AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention).

Also for help in finding a Christian counseling therapist, you can visit the Meier Clinics website.

Stop Bullies with Self-Confidence and God’s Help!

How can having self-confidence stop bullying?


Nothing attracts a bully like lack-of-confidence.  In fact, showing good self-confidence is a great defense against being bullied.  But how do you get self-confidence?  Do you find it in the mirror or  in the words of your peers?

That would be nice, but that won’t always work, especially if you dislike some of your features, or if your friends (or non-friends) sometimes tease or harass you. But no worries, you can still show self-confidence to stop bullies with these 5 simple steps.

 1. Know that You are Loved

Confidence cannot be combed into place or wiped away with blemish cream.  In fact, you can be confident no matter what you look like, especially  if you know this one little secret — God loves you.  (Yes, there really is a God and he really does care about you.)  You can learn more about how to have a relationship with God at:  But before you  check out the ‘test’ or helps on that website, try saying the following out loud.

God loves me and if God loves me, I love me too.

Was that hard to say?  If it was, try saying it again.  Next, try writing it down on a post-it note or note card and put it where you can see it several times a day.  For the more you see it and say it, the easier it will be to believe it.  This believing will have  a big pay-off because the more you believe it, the more confidence you will have.

2. Look Confident

You can learn to project confidence even when you don’t feel confident, but it may take practice.  A recent article reported, “People are less likely to be picked on if they walk and sit with awareness, calm, respect, and confidence. Projecting a positive, assertive attitude means keeping one’s head up, back straight, walking briskly, looking around, having a peaceful face and body, and moving away from people who might cause trouble.”

This may mean you need to practice in front of a mirror so that you will learn to walk with confidence, head up, as you stride purposefully.  You may need to practice how you sit in a chair so you don’t look small or afraid, but instead look sure of yourself.  You may even need to practice how you smile and say hello to others.  Notice how others who seem confident greet others and take some pointers.  Practice speaking in a clear, calm voice when you are in private so you can do so when you are with others.

3. Learn to Walk Around a Bully as Well as His Reach

What are the best words to say to a bully who confronts you?  Imagine this; with confidence you say in reply to a snide remark, “Have a nice day,” or “See you later.” Next, calmly change seats, step out of line, or just walk away.

4. Don’t be afraid to say, “Stop, I don’t Like That.”

If someone is physically tapping, kicking, or hitting you say, “Stop. I don’t like that,” and say it loudly.  Try practicing this with your hands on your hips, with a clear firm voice.  This practice will help you be ready if you really need say it to a bully.  If that time should come and more help is needed, go get an adult.

5. Take a Stand For Yourself

Practice telling yourself the opposite of a remark meant to hurt or insult you.  I found good advice on how to do this in a great article in Kid Power which advices,  “If someone says, ‘I don’t like you,’ you can throw those words away and say, ‘I like myself.’ If someone says, ‘You are stupid’ you can throw those words away and say, ‘I’m smart.’ If someone says, ‘I don’t want to play with you’ then you can throw those words away and say, ‘I will find another friend.’”

For more help, watch what teen Macbarbie has to say about how to get self-confidence, stop bullies, and develop inner-beauty.


Reasons to Live


Imagine a person sitting at their computer, typing in the phase ‘reasons to live’ because they’ve personally run out of ideas on how to do that.

But maybe this person isn’t so hard to imagine, because maybe you’ve just landed on this page to see if there’s perhaps even one good reason to continue your life. If that’s the case, I have great news: I’ve listed three great reasons to live below.

  1. God really does love you. (Bear with me on this one and keep reading… please?)
  2. You really can trust God.
  3. If you were to die today, then you would never get the chance to understand reasons 1 and 2.  Plus, you would never get the opportunity to see how God is going to help you through this in such a way that you can look back on your life and be glad you didn’t give up.

As for me, I know this is true because I’ve been where you are. Imagine twenty-one health care professionals surrounding you, telling you that your baby, who has been in a horrendous car accident, would never wake up and could live for eighty years as a vegetable.

That’s what happened to me. And one of the reasons I didn’t kill myself that very night is because I knew that God loved me. I knew I could trust God, and because if I were to die, then I would never get the chance to find out how God would move in our situation.

So I waited on God.

And I’m glad I did.  My baby is now 26 years old, and though she has disabilities, she has joy and purpose, even if it’s only to love and to be loved.  It’s in fact the same purpose that both you and I share– to love others and to let them love us.  (Sounds impossible, it’s not, but it may take some practice.  Give it some time!  ; )

But I’m here today to tell you that I trusted God and he got me through.

Don’t know God?   Try praying this prayer.

Dear Lord,

I want to know you so that the two of us can walk through this life together.  So, I am willing to follow these steps to know you; 1. First, I recognize that Jesus Christ died in my place, for my sins, so that I could wear his righteousness (not mine) and so that I can walk with you.  2.  I ask Jesus to come into my life and I choose to follow him. 3.  I giive you my whole life.

In Jesus Name.

To find out more about knowing God, go to:

Now that you’ve made your acquaintance (or reacquaintance) with God, pray this:

Dear God,

My life is not going the way I want.  But because I’ve put my trust in you, I choose to trust you with my very life.  In fact I give my life to you, and ask you to guide me through my difficulties.  In fact Lord, I’d like to ask you to turn my life into a miracle.  I know this may or may not happen overnight, but help me to trust you, step by step, to a life of peace and even happiness.  I choose to live and I choose to trust you.

In Jesus Name.


Now, give it some time and watch as God moves in your life.  If you want take our new believers Bible Study, click HERE.


By the way, in the twenty-plus years that have passed since that terrible day I almost took my life, I can tell you that I’m glad I lived.  God has comforted me, and given me even greater purpose in the writing of many books that have helped thousands of people, including When You Need a Miracle, and When You Don’t Know What to Pray.

My prayer for you is, that twenty years from now, you can look back at this time you will be oh, so glad that you choose to live and to trust God.

We are praying for you.

Watch this great YouTube clip about one teen’s list of  46 reasons why you should live.

Japanese Students – Please do not Kill Yourself

This is a message to all Japanese Students – Please do not kill yourself!

Currently suicide is the leading cause of death in many age groups in Japan.  This is partly because suicide is often a considered solution if one feels they have shamed themselves or their family.  Today, even school children commit suicide simply because they made a mistake or got a lower grade than they had intended.  Recently, I met a teacher from Japan, who is sad to lose so many of his students to what he called ‘senseless deaths.’  He asked me to write an article which would show an important alternative to student suicide.

So, this article is written to the young (and old) students of Japan:  Please do not kill yourselves! Japaneses students, please do not commit suicide!

Despite you or your family’s or society’s expectations, shame is not a good reason to take your life as I will explain below.

Consider this; if you should live past this shame, you will get a chance to honorably redeem your grade (or situation) another day.  Life will continue, and this incident, which seems shameful right now, may even be forgotten in time.  If you live, you will have a chance to bring honor to yourself and family, even marry, raise a family, find in a job,  perhaps in part because you learned how to handle shame and disappointments with honor and grace.  But no matter what you decide to do, you must know this sacred secret I am about to share with you.

The secret is this; there is hope for you when you discover the God above all gods– a God many people in Japan know and meet every day.  This great God is a God who has a different plan for both you  and your shame.  I would very much like to introduce to you to this God.

This mightly, holy God wants, more than anything, to love you and to be your constant companion.  But he had a problem.  He was too holy to walk with mankind because we all make mistakes and shame ourselves.  So, God sent his son Jesus to die a cruel death on a cross.  You see, his son Jesus died in our place.  Jesus, who was good and never did anything to shame himself or his father, allowed himself to be hung naked on a wooden cross until he was dead. He did this to pay the price for our shame, sin, and mistakes. When we accept Jesus’s payment for our shame, God  will allow us to wear the righteousness of Jesus like a beautiful, holy robe.  The righteousness of Jesus covers our sins, failures , mistakes and  shame.  In this way, God counts us as good enough to walk with him without shame.

You can start a relationship with this great God with a simple prayer:

Dear Lord,

Please forgive me for my failures and the shame that I have brought upon myself and my family.  Thank you that you provide forgiveness for my sins as well as my shame through the sacrifice of your son. Jesus. Thank you that Jesus gave his life for my life.  Jesus wants to carry my sins and shame on himself.  So I give Jesus my sin and my shame.  In exchange, I give God my whole life.  God, thank you that because Jesus is your son, and because he never sinned, he had the power to rise alive from the grave.  Because Jesus did this for me, I can now walk with you, holy God, without sin or shame.  God, please send your holy spirit to live inside of me so that you will be my constant companion.  For with God, through Jesus, I am free from shame!  My life becomes too valuable to throw away or to end it with suicide.  God thank you for giving me your love, purpose and for honoring me by taking my sin and shame!

In Jesus Name,


This is a happy development.  For now you belong to a God who believes that  your life matters.  To learn more about your new life in Christ, go to:

We have several videos which may interest you.  The first video shows a Japanese worship service where the worshippers are honoring God with songs of praise.

Watch this anime (below) which shows part of the story of Jesus’s death on the cross.

This is an importatant movie in Japanese which shows the whole story of Jesus:

Does Faith Help the Suicidal? How Can I Get God to Help Me?


Can Faith in God Help the Suicidal?

Have you noticed some things are no longer politically correct — like the fact that faith in God has helped countless suicidal people as well as others who are hurting?

And people are indeed looking for help from God. Thousands ask,  “How can I get God to help me?” on the web, every day.

It seems that many in the scientific community want to make science and medicine the only place to go to  get help.  And while it is a good idea to seek help from your doctor if you’re depressed, suicidal or have serious issues, please don’t discount the power of God’s love, mercy, and strength in your life.  Many people have found that turning to God has made a huge difference in their emotional well-being.  In fact, here’s what some of our readers have told us:

  • Thirteen-year-old   Brittany wrote, “Thank you for explaining God to me. I prayed tonight and asked for forgiveness of  sins. I’m so excited; I gave my life to Jesus!”
  • Thirty-two-year-old   Marie wrote, “Thank God your website is where it is. I was planning to kill myself, but I’ve decided to put my trust in God.”
  • Fourteen year old   Will writes, “I get taunted at  school and decided life was not worth living. But tonight I prayed and gave my life to God.”
  • Forty-two-year old   John wrote, “My wife left me for another man. It hurt so bad I wanted to die. But now, with God’s help, I’m going to try to walk through my pain.”
  •  Eleven-year-old   Tiffany wrote. “I told my dad I wanted to kill myself but he didn’t believe me. Will you believe me? I just   prayed and asked Jesus to forgive me of my sins.
  • God bless you and thank you once again for what you do for me every day. I am not exaggerating   when I say you have very likely saved my life.I found your site while searching suicide hotline pages. Since then I look forward to reading from you daily. I pray that God blesses you for all you are doing and blesses you again for what you have done JUST for me. Never become discouraged with what you are doing, please. I know that a vast majority of people will gladly accept what you do for them and even be grateful but never say a word in thanks. I am like that too at times and I try not to. On behalf of all of us.   — Carl

What are all these people praying to find such relief?  To find out, take our survey at:

And to read more responses from our guests, click HERE.

And by the way, the research is in; turning to God in stressful, emotional, or even suicidal times can make all the different.  It’s the first step in discovering a God who loves you, and asking for his help, strength and guidance to help you make it through your pain.  And yes, if you are struggling, please seek help.  The medical community or suicide hotlines are wonderful tools and can make a big difference in your recovery.  But whatever you do, don’t discount faith in God.  Seek God and his help because he cares for you.

Listen to musician Steven Curtis Chapman (who lost his daughter in a tragic accident) answer the question, “Why Jesus?” Then decide the answer to this question for yourself.

If you want to learn more about faith in God, please go to:

Create a Plan to Survive Suicidal Thoughts

Create a Plan to Survive Suicidal Thoughts


Many people who feel suicidal are only temporarily suicidal. The good news is that if they can survive their suicidal impluses or thoughts, they will be okay. To help them survive these difficult periods, Suicide Lifeline Prevention says,

“Having a plan in place that can help guide you through difficult moments can make a difference and keep you safe. Ideally, such a plan is developed jointly with your counselor or therapist. It can also be developed with a Lifeline counselor who can help you write down actions to take and people to contact in order to feel safe from suicide.

“In general, a safety plan is designed so that you can start at step one and continue through the steps until you feel safe. You should keep your plan in a place where you can easily access it (your wallet or cell phone) when you have thoughts of hurting yourself.”

To see more, click HERE.  Also, please note that the Lifeline number this quote referred to is: 1-800-273-8255.

More good news! The Suicide Prevention Resource Center has developed a tool, or a safety plan that you can download as a PDF.  (You will find the link to this PDF as the end of this article.)

Here are the ideas you will find in the plan:

  1. Recognizing your warning signs.
  2. Developing your own coping strategies, even when you are alone, to help you not act on your urges to harm yourself.
  3. Creating a list of people or situations that can help you take your mind off of things.
  4. Creating a contact list of family or friends you can talk to when you’re under stress.
  5. Creating a list of numbers and/or locations of clinicians, local emergency rooms, crisis hotlines, like the Lifeline number listed above.
  6.  Removing implements, like guns, that could be used to harm yourself.

You can download the worksheet by clicking HERE.  However, please consider adding the following idea to your plan:

     7.  Write down, or print the following prayer to pray in time of crisis.

Dear Lord,

Help me!

I cancel the spirit of suicide, trauma, panic, depression, and emotional pain off of me, in the power and authority of the name and the blood of Jesus. Lord, in the place of all of these things, I ask for your peace and your strength to help get me through this period. Help me to have the courage to live.  I use the power and authority of the name and blood of Jesus to silence the voices and emotions that are tempting me to harm myself.

Also, Lord, cancel any discouraging thoughts, impulses, negative emotions, and/or voices off of me, in the power and authority of the name and the blood of Jesus. Replace these things with your  hope and encouragement. Lord, download in me the knowledge that you love me and have goodness and blessings for me. Thank you that I am not worthless. Thank you that because of you, I have purpose and hope.

Thank you for saving me Jesus!

In Jesus Name.  Amen

If you want to know more about developing a relationship with God, go to:

Here’s a cartoon-ized story of a man who made a plan to live:

My Family Would Be Better Off Without Me – True or False?


Ever contemplated, “My Family Would Be Better Off Without Me?”

We once got an email from a man who was thinking of committing suicide because he said, “My family would be better off without me.”  If you’re thinking this too, you might be interested in our response:

Dear One,

If you take your life, you will destroy your children’s future. You are their parent and they need you now on so many more levels than you can imagine. If you were gone, through suicide, the chances that they would also at some point commit suicide is greater than 60 percent. They would think, “If this is how my parent coped, then this is how I should cope.” That means your death could literally kill your kids. Believe me, if you’re thinking about the insurance money your kids would get at your death, please understand that money isn’t everything. Besides, suicide nulls insurance policy payoffs.

So, please quit thinking about death. I know that I would rather have my mom or dad instead of a million dollars. I know your kids feel the same way.
If you give up on life, you give up on so many possibilities and on so many people who need you. It may not ‘seem’ like this is true, but it is.

Think about this, if everything in ‘your worst case scenerio’ happened, God would have a plan that would enable things to turn around. But if you had already given up, if you were already gone, how would you ever discover God’s plan for you? The enemy is trying to whisper death to you. Don’t buy his lies. You’ve got a lot to live for. Whether you now realize it or not.

If you allow life to keep you, one day, you will look back at this time and see how far down the road you’ve come. You will look at pride at your kids and see how they made it without insurance funds (that wouldn’t be available to than anyway if you kill yourself.) You will see your children as young adults who have been spared the pain of your suicide. They will be better adjusted and they will live to face their problems successfully.

Life is not without problems, but God is with you. Even when it does not feel like it, God is with those with a broken heart. Quit looking at ‘what might happen’ and look up. Look up at a God who is smiling at you, who is saying, TRUST ME. I will get you through this difficult place. I have a plan for you. I’m going to take you someplace wonderful you couldn’t have guessed.

Wait. Wait on God. In the meantime, if thoughts of suicide get too heavy, go to the hospital or call 911. Call your doctor as well.

You are going to make it!


To see this letter in it’s entirety, click  HERE.  To see MORE letters, click HERE.

I’m happy to report that this man decided not to take his life, but decided he had a reason to live – namely his family.

Please understand, that it’s a common lie of the enemy (the devil) to get dads, as well as moms, to believe they should take their own lives “because their families would be better off without them.”  NOT!  If you have been tempted by this lie, please consider praying the following:

Dear Lord,

Open my eyes to truth.  I break any lies of the enemy regarding the idea that my family would be better off without me, in the power and authority of the name of Jesus.  I replace this lie with your love and your truth.  Lord, show me that I am not worthless, and that you do have a plan for my life.  Show me that my family needs me. Forgive me for almost falling into this suicide trap.  But thank you for showing me that you  love me enough to get me this message just in time.  I choose life–though your power Lord — Save me!  I choose life!  Help me to be strong.

In Jesus Name


If you’d like to know more about how to know God, go to: And, in case you need to see the answer to our question  to My Family Would Be Better Off Without Me?  The answer is, in black and white — NO, they need you.  Please, do not leave them, especially by way of suicide.

Watch this music video about a little girl missing her dad:

To see more on this subject, please read the story of a sucidial man who did call on God. To find out what happened, click on:  I Feel Worthless:  A Suicidal Man Calls Upon God

Help – I Cut Myself and Self-Injure


We have some great ideas that may help you in your struggle to not cut or self-injure yourself.


Self-injury, such as cutting or burning, has unfortunately become a popular as well as an addictive way for many people to handle their difficult emotions.  Are you one who can say, “I cut myself’?

And though self-cutting is not a suicidal gesture, many who self-cut or harm may one day be drawn into a suicide attempt.  We want to help prevent this tragedy from happening to you, plus we want to help you overcome your compulsion to harm or injure yourself.

First, know that we are not shocked by your secret and we see you as a precious person.  Secondly, we believe you can overcome this obsession. Here are a few suggestions to help you do so, from the WordPress blog Discussing Dissociation; Thoughts from a Trauma Therapist:

  1. Call a friend or two and talk to them about anything – the weather, politics, the news, old times, new recipes, etc.  Distract yourself, and enjoy the company.
  2. Watch a movie or two, or three, or however many it takes till you get past the urge to SI. Promise yourself that you will watch movies until you feel safe again.
  3. Write about your feelings in your journal. Write a poem out about your feelings.
  4. Scrub the house from top to bottom.  Distracting yourself with tedious tasks, paying close attention to details can give you a different focus for the energy you are feeling.
  5. Get out the hottest jar of salsa and add jalapeno pepper or red chili peppers, and dig in. It might burn your mouth or make your eyes water and your nose run to eat this, but it won’t scar or cause actual harm.
  6. Draw or paint on paper what you want to do to yourself.  Draw or paint a second picture showing why you want to do this.  Draw or paint a third picture showing how you wish you were feeling.
  7. Play with, pet, hold, or hug your pet.  Find comfort and soothe yourself with the company of your dog and cat instead turning to pain or injury.
  8. Take a walk or exercise.  The physical release of energy is helpful.
  9. Plant a small garden.  Creating something nice, making something pretty to look at, and tending to something alive can put you into a different frame of mind.
  10. Take a bath or shower.  Let the water soothe you and help release your stress. Talking out loud or crying in the shower helps get the pain out that is locked inside you.  Let the stress rinse off and send it “down the drain” away from you.

To read the entire list of 25 Ways to Avoid Self-Injury and Prevent Self-Harm, click HERE.

While getting help as you tell others “I cut myself“, I also suggest talking about your impulse to self-harm or injure yourself  to the Lord of the universe with a simple prayer like this:

Dear Lord,

I know you see my scars.  Help me to understand that you aren’t ashamed of me or shocked by my actions, but that you love me and accept me just as I am. In fact, your own son Jesus was scarred in my place. He shed his blood for me, so that I wouldn’t haven’t to shed my blood to release my pain or purify myself.  Jesus has already done that for me.  In fact Lord, I ask that You do me a great favor; I ask that You carry my pain. I ask that You give me the strength to let go of my pain, my sins, my failures because Jesus has already paid the price so I don’t have to.

Give me direction as well as the strength to walk in the light of your great love for me. And deliver me, as Jesus taught us to pray, from evil.  In fact, I break the assignment of evil off of me by canceling the assignment of self-cutting and self-harm off of me right now, in the power and authority of the name and blood of Jesus. Set me free Jesus, and give me a new life, and a new direction in you, a life with hope, purpose, love and joy.  Lord, save me from evil and save me from my own pain. Give me hope and a plan filled with ideas to  help me overcome, people to talk to and a new life of purpose to walk into.  THANK YOU!!

In Jesus Name,


To see the story of how Jesus changed Taryn Davis’s life and helped her through her self-destructive as well as cutting issues, watch the video below:

To learn more about God’s love for you, go to:

Life After a Failed Suicide Attempt


Angry because of a failed suicide attempt? There’s hope..


If you’ve survived a failed suicide attempt, you may be dealing with many emotions including anger; anger that you were left to continue to face your troubles.  But could it be that God is giving you a second chance; a chance to find hope?

That’s what Kristen Jane Anderson discovered after her failed suicide attempt.  You can listen to her tell about how she discovered hope and purpose, even after losing her legs the night she survived laying down on the railroad tracks in front of an oncoming train, and 33 freight train cars at 55 miles per hour ran over her.

A train took her legs–yet God gave her a new life. See Kristen Anderson’s interview on CBN about her failed suicide attempt:


You can visit Kristen’s website at Reaching You Ministries ( See also Kristen’s book (with Tricia Goyer): Life, In Spite of Me: Extraordinary Hope After a Fatal Choice. The Random House Digital version can be read on Kindle or on a computer, via Kindle for PC.

Kristen became desperate due to grief over losing four friends–one to suicide–then her grandma, then trauma from rape by a friend. See our articles (try our site SEARCH) on dealing with grief, including the loss of teen friends, and on sexual assault/rape, for more help. However:

 If you are contemplating suicide at this moment, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

If you would like to know more about God, and how to start a relationship with him, go to

If you’ve ever wondered if you would go to hell if you committed suicide, check out our article on the topic by clicking HERE. But also we hope you wonder, “What can God do with my life, if I choose to live?” Kristen is now not only glad to be alive–she is hoping to save others, with God at her side.