Turn Your Life Around After a Suicide Attempt like Drew Carey

Linda Evans Shepherd

If you’ve ever wondered if you can turn your life around after a suicide attempt, consider successful comedian Drew Carey.  Drew was a young man who faced many difficulties, including his father’s death from a brain tumor when he was only eight-years-old.  A few years later, while in college, Drew attempted suicide.

But despite his struggles, and even despite the fact he dropped out of Kent State due to poor academic performance, he discovered that you can turn your life around after a suicide attempt.

Since then, Drew got help and changed his attitude to a more positive approach. That helped him develop a successful career in comedy and also helped him as the host of “Price is Right.”

Turn Your Life  Around After a Suicide Attempt

Watch Drew tell his story in the YouTube below:

You may want to reference the short online document: Suicide, Taking Care of Yourself After an Attempt by NAMI. (Click HERE.)

 

In a crisis, contact:

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

A 24-hour, toll-free crisis hotline funded by the federal government that will direct callers to a nearby crisis center. The Lifeline will accept calls from non-English speakers.

www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

For more information about suicide and mental illness: American Association of Suicidology, a resource and education organization dedicated to the understanding and prevention of suicide.

www.suicidology.org or call 202-237-2280

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

Dedicated to advancing the public’s knowledge of suicide and its prevention.

www.afsp.org or call 1-888-333-AFSP

 

Finding Hope When You Think “I Want to End My Life”

By Janet Perez Eckles:

When someone says, “I want to end my life,” how do you help her?

 

I swallowed hard. Her despair was evident. The sudden death of her son had been all over the news. And the fact she reached out to me put me on my knees for wisdom.

“How do you live,” she paused, then exhaled a long breath. “I mean, how do you go on with life after this pain?”

Her distress was so familiar to me. I had lost my own son just months prior. The perpetrator who had murdered my son was set free. At first, sorrow and rage had threatened to consume me.

I met with her to offer what help I could, and hugged her. “I know. I know your heartache.” I said. Gulping the lump in my throat, I handed her a tissue. “The only one who helped me was Jesus. In fact, He’s the only one who helps me now. . . moment by moment.”

“Don’t know,” she said between sobs. “Sometimes I want to end my life, but don’t know how.”

I suppressed a gasp. Ending her life would begin a life of sorrow and anguish for her other children, her family and loved ones. Her grief had blinded her from seeing the purpose, the value and treasure she was in God’s eyes.

Since I had seen first-hand the other side of heartache, I knew thoughts like “I want to end my life” were never the answer. In fact, nothing seems to be the answer, to be enough or sufficient. But God says in the Bible, when we’re weak with pain:

My grace is sufficient for you…” 2 Corinthians 12:9.

“Think of your other children,” I said. I detailed my journey of how I believed In God’s promise. To let go. To release that pain and anguish directly to Him.

I assured her that God understands when we’re angry, when we’re mad at Him, even when we question His Word. Still, He’s still faithful. He’s still loving and He’s still powerful enough to heal that heartache.  And if you exchange your thoughts of I want to end my life” for “I want to begin with Jesus,” it will open the door to a new start, a new perspective, and a desire to receive the peace only He can give.

Here’s a video which I hope offers you additional encouragement:

 

Blindness and Thoughts of Suicide

By Janet Perez Eckles

He turns your thoughts of suicide to a song.

“I hate my life,” I cried out to God.“ I sobbed. “I don’t deserve to be blind. Why me?”

My clamors to God filled my sleepless nights. I was only 31; my sons at the time were 3, 5 and 7. They needed me and I needed someone to help me deal with my intense fear and anguish.

Doctors didn’t have a cure, treatments didn’t work, and even those painful acupuncture needles around my eyes didn’t help. I was desperate and would tried anything so I could to regain my eyesight.

“Are you okay, honey?” my mom asked.

“I’m fine,” I lied. The retinal disease I inherited from my father wasn’t anyone’s fault. But accepting my blindness was beyond me.

Some have thoughts of suicide, others turn angry and I was sinking in self-pity.

Then a friend invited me to her Christian church. I heaved a long sigh of hope. And thought I’d try to see if that secret miracle I longed for would be waiting for me there. But sadly, there was no miracle, no healing. But one day, unexpectedly, like a warm injection to my soul, a verse filled me:

 “Seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33.

I committed to make Him first. Regaining my sight came second. I drew closer to Him, and farther from my pain. My despair subsided. I believed in that promise. I put aside my anguish and invited His strength.

Eventually, step by step he changed those thoughts of suicide I could’ve had to a song as you can see in the YouTube video below:

My new song plays a melody of hope, a marked beat of His reassurance and, a symphony   of joy for my soul.

Has Loss Left You Feeling Suicidal?

By Liz Cowen Furman

Over two years of research went into planning and writing a book about how to plan a funeral. During that time several folks I loved died, one dear friend was even murdered. All of this trauma left me feeling destroyed. But several books I read while doing my research encouraged me through my darkest times and I wanted to suggest them to you, especially if you are feeling suicidal.

I’ve included each book with a link and you may want to check to see if any of these are available at your local library.

Devotions for the Brokenhearted, by Robin Prince Monroe (2006, Tate).  This amazing book helped me so much. If your pain is fresh, and even if it isn’t, this is a must-read for anyone experiencing the pain of a loss.

 

 

Loss of a Loved One (In This Very Hour) by Robin Prince Monroe (1994, Broadman Holman). This short book is honest, compassionate and easy to read. Very helpful.

 

 

 

If God is so Good, Why Do I Hurt So Bad? by David Biebel (1989, Baker Publishing Group, Michigan.) This is his finest book on grief. Honest and candid, Mr. Biebel hits the nail on the head. A must read for anyone struggling through a loss.

 

 

The Twenty-Third Psalm for the Brokenhearted by Carmen Leal (2005, AMG Publishers).  Comfort and peace, as promised by the author of both.

 

 

 

Here’s what GOD says to His followers:

Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10  

We can take that promise to the spiritual bank, just ask Him, He will help you through.

The Effect Suicide Has On Loved Ones

By Susan Titus Osborn:

Rosen Georgiev / FreeDigitalPhotos.netIf you are depressed and considering taking your own life, please stop for a moment and think of the effect suicide has on loved ones, your loved ones, who are left behind.

The following poem, To Our Sister by Gary Sumner, sums up the feelings of a brother and the effect his sister’s suicide had on him.

We hate that thing you did.

It did not solve one thing.

We doubt you thought it through.

How could you plan such pain?

 

Your life was not just yours—

A part of it was ours.

The ones you left behind

Cruel emptiness now know.

 

We’d plans and hopes and dreams

Of times with you, dear one.

Events need not be grand—

Your presence was enough.

 

A future filled with joy

And days of happiness,

With loved ones all around

Were always wished for you.

 

Now do you hear the tears,

That come to us unbidden?

We ache to think of such

A future swept away.

 

This poem was taken from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors and used with permission by New Hope Publishers.

If you are depressed and contemplating suicide, there aren’t number of resources available as near as your telephone. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.

You can also dial the following National Suicide Prevention Hotline numbers operated by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration of the Department of Health and Human Services:

1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)

1-888-SUICIDE (1-888-784-2433)

1-877-SUICIDA (1-877-784-2432) (Spanish).

Here’s a video that takes a look at the heartbreaking effect suicide has on loved ones.

 

Susan Titus Osborn is the director of the Christian Communicator Manuscript Critique Service. She has authored 30 books, her latest being Wounded by Words and Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors, co-authored by Jeenie Gordon and Karen Kosman. Books may be ordered from New Hope Publishers.

 

 

Why Bother Living When Facing a Serious Infection?

By Lisa Copen:

When you cope with health problems, you hold on and fight to stay positive, but there are days when you can easily wonder, “Why bother living when I am facing the pain of a serious infection?”

It was the seventh day of being hospitalized with the flesh eating bacteria and I felt so alone. The couple of people who had visited were friends my husband had emailed or called and pleaded that they stop by to say hello, since the original announcement of my hospitalization had not resulted in any visitors or calls.

Sitting there feeling so alone, I refused to cry. If I started, I knew the tears wouldn’t stop. My husband had to work. My mom was flying to town to help once I was released from the hospital, but now I had to have the big, painful procedure of debriding the dead skin that had turned black on my ankle.

I may live with painful rheumatoid arthritis daily, but the truth is, I am a wimp when it comes to painful procedures where I have no control over someone else’s actions.

The nurse came in and helped the surgeon prepare, and then she grabbed my hand. “I know it is scary, honey, but I am not going anywhere. I will be here the entire time and hold your hand. Squeeze if hurts. Just pretend I am your mom.”

I squeezed when the pain of the procedure became unbearable and tears flowed down my cheeks without a sound, but having that hand to hold made the difference.

So often we feel like life is just not worth living anymore and it is not unusual when you are dealing with a serious infection or illness to have suicidal thoughts. If we have to go through the tough times alone, and the people who know us and love us cannot even be here, why bother hanging on? When you live with daily chronic pain and then additional infections threaten to take your life, why not just give in and end the pain?

Because someone will hold your hand. Pray for a hand to hold, whether it be a stranger or a best friend. In Genesis 21:17 we read that when the fourteen-year-old Ishmael cried, God heard him and sent His angel to tell his mother, “Do not be afraid; God has heard the boy crying as he lies there. Lift the boy up and take him by the hand. . .”

And those times when no one appears? God is there to hold your hand.

When you see someone who is hurting, ask them if you can take their hand in some way. You may find purpose in your life today by just holding the door open for one who is struggling, taking a box into the post office for one who is in need. Lift someone up by taking your hand and offering it to someone in need. You may never know the difference you have made. They may have been wondering that very day, “Why bother living?” and you have let them know there is hope.

This song below, “Hold Her Hands,” is written by Carolynn Grace who shares, “I wrote this song about a close friend of mine who went through a stage of depression, but God pulled her through. He is always faithful and his love never fails.”

nEIPoV-eU-U

 Lisa Copen has lived with rheumatoid arthritis for nineteen years, and has found purpose in her pain by reaching out to others with chronic illness. Her organization,  Rest Ministries, serves those with chronic illness or pain through daily devotionals and other programs.

Dogs Help Stop Suicide in Military Veterans

By Linda Evans Shepherd

Dogs Help Stop Suicide in Military Veterans

Many of our veterans are returning home with Post Traumatic Stress (PTSD) and are in danger of losing their lives to suicide.  So, could it be that a wagging tail could help stem the tide of this heartbreaking loss of life?  Yes. Dogs help stop suicide in military veterans. According to Web MD, pets have the power to improve mood and to provide unconditional love.

Alan Entin, PhD, a psychologist in Richmond, Va is quoted in the Web MD article saying,

“Dogs, in particular, are always glad to see you,” he notes. “When you are feeling down and out, the puppy just starts licking you, being with you, saying with his eyes, ‘You are the greatest.’ When an animal is giving you that kind of attention, you can’t help but respond by improving your mood and playing with it.”

Entin added, “Having a pet takes the focus off the owner’s problems, Entin says, since having a pet is a commitment–you need to feed and care for the pet. “When people have a pet in the house, it forces them to take care of another life,” Entin says. With the focus outward, he says, the pet owner may not dwell on their depressed mood as much.”

Vets adopting pets is a great solution for the animals too as 6 to 8 million dogs and cats are euthanized every year, simply because they need a home.

To see the power of a dog in a vet’s life, check out the video below:

Video of How Dogs Help Stop Suicide in Military Veterans

Pets can be found in shelters and can even be what the doctor orders via prescription.  Also organizations exists, like Pets for Vets, to help military veterans reclaim normalcy in their lives through companion dogs.

PLEASE NOTE: If you are a vet who is depressed or in danger of harming yourself or others, contact Veteran’s Crisis Line or call 1-800-273-8255 and Press 1, chat online, or send a text message to 838255 to receive confidential support 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

See related article, Finding God Through Your Dog from Finding God Daily. 

Finding Hope After Thinking About Suicide

by Liz Cowen Furman

I had lost all hope.

I was laying on my bed in a fetal position; my tears spent. I felt things could never get better because of all the lies being told about me, and those I loved believed them.  Worse still, this was a problem I’d helped create. I was desperately depressed and I felt guilty, angry and SAD.

I found myself thinking about suicide. That would show them, I thought.

I contemplated ways I could die, but each idea met with the fear that my attempt would backfire, leaving me maimed, ill, or paralyzed.  Paralyzed?

I couldn’t think of any other options. I stared into space, breathing shallow. My mind was fuzzy, befuddled, but in a desperate last effort I whispered to GOD.

Please GOD, What is the point here? I can’t face this. I can’t do this anymore. Bring me home. I love you, I need you, I’ve blown it so badly You might not want me anymore, but I am asking You to come near to me and help me. Please don’t leave me here alone. I don’t want to be alone. I am not brave enough to commit suicide. No one on earth cares about me any more. Can’t I just come home now?”

As I lay there wishing for Him to let me die, the oddest thing happened. A scripture I hadn’t thought of in years began running through my head; Joshua 1:5:

 No one will be able to stand against you all the days of your life. As I was with Moses, so I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you.

Then came Isaiah 43:1-4

“Do not fear, for I have redeemed you; 
I have summoned you by name; you are mine…

In that moment, I had the oddest sensation that I was being cradled in someone’s lap. I began to think, I am NOT thinking about suicide anymore. I will not let them win. I will just hold my head up and teach them that I am not that easily killed. I had no idea where the new courage came from. I still dreaded facing what was ahead, but a glimmer of hope began to burn and where there is hope, there is a way.

And now 26 years later, I am so thankful GOD didn’t grant my request to die.

If you are thinking about suicide, and you don’t go through with it, I suspect in a few years, months, or even days, you’ll be grateful to be alive too.

If you are thinking about suicide check out this video of a great song that JESUS often calls to my mind at the very moment I need it most.

 In my distress I called upon the LORD, And cried to my God for help; He heard my voice out of His temple, And my cry for help before Him came into His ears.  Psalm 18:6.

Help for Chronic Pain with Suicidal Thoughts

By Karen Boerger

While vacationing recently in Florida, we were walking through the hotel lobby to begin our day when I heard my husband ask, “Are you OK?”  Again he asked, “Are you OK?” He had stopped beside a man bent over a chair. The man said he had two herniated disks in his back and was in extreme pain 24 hours a day, with no relief. He said at one point he had unloaded his guns at home. Chronic pain with suicidal thoughts threatened his life, but he showed wisdom in protecting himself when he knew the pain was causing him to not think rationally.

That comment quickly took me back to a time in our lives when my husband was having severe depression. Before he was hospitalized he had sent our 16-year-old daughter to our friend’s house with our guns.  My friend still talks about that morning; she still can’t believe it. I can’t out of my mind the look of bewilderment and concern she had as she delivered the firearms back to us later.

It’s good that my husband began a dialogue with the gentleman at the hotel, because with depression one of the helpful treatments is talking about your feelings. Social support is very important. Talking regularly with supportive family and friends is extremely helpful.  Healing from depression takes time, and patience is necessary; but making the choice to share your feelings with someone else is so important. You can also talk with others dealing with chronic pain (some hospitals have support groups), plus find hope and help online at www.restministries.org.

With treatment and support, even when experiencing chronic pain with suicidal thoughts when someone says, “Are You OK?” you will be able to boldly say, “Yes, I am!”

 A friend loves at all times . . .  (Proverbs 17:17)

Other pages here at this site:

Feeling Suicidal?

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How to Live Through Hump Day

By Linda Evans Shepherd

According to the Washington Post, “intriguing new research shows that Wednesday is the day of the week on which most suicides occur.”

But why is it so hard to know how to live through hump day?  Wouldn’t Monday be the most challenging day of the week?

Apparently not, as the Post says, “The study looked at data about suicides nationwide among people over age 18; that number totaled 131,636 over five years. Almost a quarter of those suicides happened on Wednesdays, while only about 14 percent took place on Mondays. The fewest — just over 11 percent — occurred on Thursdays.”

So what’s so difficult about Wednesdays?  Could it be as the study suggests, “perhaps life’s stresses build up by mid-week and seem most insurmountable on that day?”

But note what a difference a day makes! By Thursday, people who managed to live through Wednesday or least likely to take their own lives.  With that in mind, here are some suggestions on how to live through hump day.  Please note that these suggestions are geared for those who might implusively take their lives due to the mid-week blues or sudden circumstances that seem overwhelming.  None of the suggestions are meant to offend those with chronic depression.  If you are chronically depressed or if you need additional helps, please read the comments to this article which have some great critiques and suggestionsAlso, note that we have an ever growing catagory called ‘Depression‘ that you may want to check into.  Also, we welcome your continued suggestions on what might help people who are looking for solutions.

  1. When you feel stressed, depressed, or discouraged, before you do something impulsive like taking your own life, made a decision to wait; a day, a week, a month, a year.  It’s likely your feelings will change because Wednesdays don’t last forever, Thursday is on the way!
  2. If you are feeling overwhelmed, stop and count your blessings and if you can’t think of any, determine how you can be a blessing to others.
  3. Think about those things you have to look forward to.  And if you can’t think of anything, start dreaming.  Ask yourself questions like; if I could go anywhere in the world where would I go?  What is a skill I would like to learn? Then start planning your dream trip or researching how you can learn that skill.
  4. Are you still up?  Go to bed. Don’t sit up late and mope, it’s very likely you will feel better in the morning.  Otherwise, if you can’t sleep, read a book, watch a comedy, put on some soothing music.  But if it’s not yet bedtime, stand up, take a walk, get some fresh air, or call a friend.  Relax! Everything is going to be all right.
  5. Recite your problems to God, then tell him, “Now these things are your problems.”  Then relax.  He loves you and no matter what you are going through, you can trust him to see you through it.
  6. Call a suicide hotline.

If you know about the song ‘Friday,’ you might enjoy this silly parody called ‘Wednesday’.  Relax and enjoy.  It looks to me like you need a good laugh.

Don’t let tricky Wednesday pysch you out because now you have some some motivators that will show you how to live through hump day. 
P.S.  Don’t try any of those silly car tricks.  Stay safe.  You’ll be glad you did.