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The Robin Williams Question

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I want to answer the Robin Williams Question that so many are struggling with;

If Robin William’s died, why shouldn’t I?

Here’s my answer, an answer I would have loved to have shared with Robin…

Depression is like a living monster which is built on lies that parade through your mind; lies built for one purpose, to steal, kill and destroy the wonderful person you are.  Dr. Keith Abow, a psychiatrist who has dealt with many who entertained this monster said in a recent article which addressed Robin, “I would have told you to fight against the invader with everything and every resource, without pride.  Deploy every weapon. And because the truth is the mortal enemy of every lie, I would have told you to get to an emergency room or call a suicide hotline or 911 and tell someone the absolute truth about all the dark thoughts you were having—yes, even the one about leaving the planet. Especially that one. Because that one is the big lie implanted in your mind by the Godforsaken charlatan, scum, named major depression. Your enemy. And mine.”

I applaud Dr. Abow’s wise words, but I’d like to further shine the truth on the lies that come with depression.  They are from the pit of hell.  We know Satan (who is real) has come to steal, kill, and destroy the ones that God has gifted with the most purpose and potential.  First he blinds them to their future and hope, then he whispers lies into their hearts.

Do not believe those lies.

If I could have said one thing to Robin prior to his death, I would have told him, “You are loved and have brought joy to so many and if you choose to live, you will continue to bring joy to others and even find happier moments yourself.  Plus, if you live, you will not inspire others to give up on life. Your death will become a tragedy for many families.”

The sad truth is that others have been influenced by Robin’s death and chosen death as well.  Robin could have chosen life and walked out of his deep depression to experience more of his God given purpose as well as love, joy and even peace.  Sure, he may have had to struggle from time to time, but he could have worked to manage his depression and continued to live.  The problems he may have struggled with such as self-loathing, financial woes, fear of the future could have been managed.  And not only that, these struggles could have been met through the strength of the very God Robin believed in.

If Robin had only trusted in the God who loved him, if he had pushed back against his depression and called 911 or gone to the emergency room, he would have lived through the darkness to find life once again.

Robin is gone but you are here, and I’d like to say that if you are depressed, you can fight back. You can recognize the lies of depression which may be trying to coax you into a tragic decision that will not only hurt you but those who love you. Don’t do anything rash while you are in the depth of your hurt or despair. Live, so you can have a hope and a future.

As the word says in Jeremiah 29:11New Living Translation,

 For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” (NLT)

Like Robin, you do not have to give into the temptation of death.  You can choose to live.  Just as the Lord told his people,

“This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.” Deut. 30:19 (NIV)

Live!  God loves you and will get you through the darkness.

If you would like to know more about God’s love for you, go to:  GodTest.com

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Review: How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide

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Review by Martha Bolton REVIEW: How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide:  Steps to Heal the Hurt is available as a Kindle book, click HERE. As a mother who experienced the grief of her son’s suicide, Louisa Lanford shares her heart, her hurt, and her journey toward healing in her new ebook, How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide […]

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Embracing Truth after a Suicide Attempt

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From Karen Kosman, with Dr. Kevin Downing: Excerpt from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors; used with permission by New Hope Publishers. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18) Unforgiveness traps the heart, mind, and soul in an […]

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Suicide Loss Book Translated into Polish (Too Soon to Say Goodbye)

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News from our blog writers: the book  Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Victims and Survivors of Suicide by Susan Titus Osborn, Karen L. Kosman, and  Jeenie Gordon has been translated into Polish, and  has also been featured in a Polish magazine. Here is Susan’s Q&A with the editor of the Polish […]

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The Other Side (Poem): Overcoming Suicidal Thoughts

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By Susan Osborn: Some feelings about overcoming suicidal thoughts are best expressed in a poem.   Excerpt from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors; used with permission by New Hope Publishers.   If you are feeling overwhelmed by your problems in life and have succumbed to suicidal thoughts, […]

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Hope and Encouragement from Hot Apple Cider

The story below is from the book A Second Cup of Hot Apple Cider, with N.J. Lindquist.

From N. J. Lindquist: Excerpt from A Second Cup of Hot Apple Cider (free book through Dec 2013 as a special gift for our site visitors or anyone who could use a little hope and encouragement. All 50 stories. Download Now.) Be Still and Know by Glynis M. Belec: Throughout my cancer journey, “God signs” […]

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Changing Negative Self-Talk: Can I Hear Me Now?

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Changing perspective from stressed or depressed  to blessed can be affected by changing negative self-talk.  Excerpt from: Too Blessed to be Stressed (2011, Barbour Publishing).  By Debora M. Coty: “I just cannot learn this new system.” “I’m dumber than a rock.” “No way I’ll ever get along with her.” Sound like anything you’ve muttered to […]

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God’s Love Thwarts a Suicide Attempt

Instead of a suicide attempt, seek and find God’s love and new life — as this one young woman did.     A group of lively young women—none of them over twenty years of age––sat at attention in a chapel service, ready to talk about their past and how God had rescued them from a […]

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When Someone in Debt Says: “I’ll Kill Myself”

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By Karen O’Connor: “If My Debt Overwhelms Me I’ll Just Kill Myself!”     I sat across from a pretty dark-haired young woman who appeared to be in her mid-twenties. She and I and others were in a financial planning seminar seated horseshoe fashion in front of the instructor. We were asked to go around […]

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Scripture Helps Overcome Thoughts of Suicide

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By  Karen O’Connor: One man discovered that hearing and applying scripture to his life helped him overcome thoughts of suicide.     During a class on faith building at church this week I heard an inspiring story about a man who had been so despondent about his situation that he planned to take his life. […]

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