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Review: How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide

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REVIEW: How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide:  Steps to Heal the Hurt is available as a Kindle book, click HERE.

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As a mother who experienced the grief of her son’s suicide, Louisa Lanford shares her heart, her hurt, and her journey toward healing in her new ebook, How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide (Right to the Heart Publishers, 2013). In this moving account of her own experience,  Louisa Lanford provides hope for other hurting parents.

Healing is often found in forgiveness, but real forgiveness comes after first looking at the truth of a situation and then opting to forgive.  Louisa had a lot of truths to consider.  Her hurting son had chosen a path that may have, in his mind, ended his pain, but that unfortunate decision opened a world of hurt for those who loved him.  She needed to forgive her son.  Louisa found that she also needed to forgive her daughter-in-law who may or may not have inadvertently suggested that “he go ahead and do it.”  She needed to forgive her because if her daughter-in-law had said that, she would be dealing with unbelievable pain and guilt.  If she hadn’t said that, then she would be suffering from the pain of being misjudged.  And finally, Louisa needed to forgive herself and others around her son who sadly missed important signs of his escalating suicidal thoughts.

Needless to say, the path to forgiveness wasn’t an easy one for Louisa.

But she was determined that her son’s story wouldn’t end at his death. This author of How to Survive Your Child’s Suicide has taken her family’s painful tragedy and turned it around to help others on their own journey through grief, guilt and forgiveness.  She also wanted to send a wake up call to all of us to be keenly aware of the very real need to intervene when someone is so desperately hurting.

If you or someone you know has lost a loved one to suicide, or if you or someone you know is presently in the jaws of despair, this book will encourage you to do more than sit on the sidelines.

Or if you are the one who’s depressed, don’t sit on the sidelines of your own life.  Reach out and ask for help.  Call a pastor, friend,  or counselor, but let someone know how desperately you’re hurting.  You can get through these moments of despair.  Listen to the reasonable, caring voices in your life that don’t negate your past hurts or remind you of wrong choices you may have made in the past.  They won’t bully you into believing untruths about yourself.  Instead, they will encourage you to look beyond yesterday and today, and see your future.

To download the ebook, how to survive your child’s suicide, click HERE.

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Embracing Truth after a Suicide Attempt

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From Karen Kosman, with Dr. Kevin Downing: Excerpt from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors; used with permission by New Hope Publishers. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. (Psalm 34:18) Unforgiveness traps the heart, mind, and soul in an […]

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Suicide Loss Book Translated into Polish (Too Soon to Say Goodbye)

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News from our blog writers: the book  Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Victims and Survivors of Suicide by Susan Titus Osborn, Karen L. Kosman, and  Jeenie Gordon has been translated into Polish, and  has also been featured in a Polish magazine. Here is Susan’s Q&A with the editor of the Polish […]

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The Other Side (Poem): Overcoming Suicidal Thoughts

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By Susan Osborn: Some feelings about overcoming suicidal thoughts are best expressed in a poem.   Excerpt from Too Soon to Say Goodbye: Healing and Hope for Suicide Victims and Survivors; used with permission by New Hope Publishers.   If you are feeling overwhelmed by your problems in life and have succumbed to suicidal thoughts, […]

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Hope and Encouragement from Hot Apple Cider

The story below is from the book A Second Cup of Hot Apple Cider, with N.J. Lindquist.

From N. J. Lindquist: Excerpt from A Second Cup of Hot Apple Cider (free book through Dec 2013 as a special gift for our site visitors or anyone who could use a little hope and encouragement. All 50 stories. Download Now.) Be Still and Know by Glynis M. Belec: Throughout my cancer journey, “God signs” […]

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Changing Negative Self-Talk: Can I Hear Me Now?

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Changing perspective from stressed or depressed  to blessed can be affected by changing negative self-talk.  Excerpt from: Too Blessed to be Stressed (2011, Barbour Publishing).  By Debora M. Coty: “I just cannot learn this new system.” “I’m dumber than a rock.” “No way I’ll ever get along with her.” Sound like anything you’ve muttered to […]

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God’s Love Thwarts a Suicide Attempt

Instead of a suicide attempt, seek and find God’s love and new life — as this one young woman did.     A group of lively young women—none of them over twenty years of age––sat at attention in a chapel service, ready to talk about their past and how God had rescued them from a […]

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When Someone in Debt Says: “I’ll Kill Myself”

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By Karen O’Connor: “If My Debt Overwhelms Me I’ll Just Kill Myself!”     I sat across from a pretty dark-haired young woman who appeared to be in her mid-twenties. She and I and others were in a financial planning seminar seated horseshoe fashion in front of the instructor. We were asked to go around […]

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Scripture Helps Overcome Thoughts of Suicide

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By  Karen O’Connor: One man discovered that hearing and applying scripture to his life helped him overcome thoughts of suicide.     During a class on faith building at church this week I heard an inspiring story about a man who had been so despondent about his situation that he planned to take his life. […]

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Will it End? Depression from Loss of a Son

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Janet suffered great anguish and depression from loss — the great loss of her teen son. Would that feeling of despair ever leave?   By Janet Perez Eckles: Dear God, This wound tore my life apart. The darkness of pain is too overwhelming. When  will the torment that mocks each sleepless night end? The murder […]

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